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Everyone is telling me that one of my best friends is being manipulative?

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Okay so here's the deal~

I'm best friends with three girls.I met two of them three years ago when i went in to secondary school and we've been friend with the other girl for like a year or so.I met alice*(fake name) first and we quickly became friends and then a few weeks later one time at lunchtime

we met anne*(fake name) after she had been ditched by her friends.

We felt bad for her so invited her to hang around that lunchtime with us.

We thought that that was the end of it but the next day she asked could she come with us again and i said okay but alice wasn't that happy about it.After that she didn't ask anymore she just assumed she was coming with us which i didn't mind as i liked her but alice didn't.They soon started getting into fights and for a while i was stuck in the middle.They stopped fighting though and i thought that they resolved their issues.And for a while they had.In second year they got on really well and we had a lot of fun.Last year we met another girl jane*(fake name) and soon she also became part of our group too.

A couple of months ago alice confessed to me that none of her family liked anne and thought she was 'dark'.They said she had no manners,was rude and impolite.Her older brother and her parents didn't want her to hang around with anne anymore.

I had never noticed anything wrong and wasn't sure what to do.

Then in the past few days alice has spoken to me and has told me that everyone is telling her that anne is manipulating us and has been for the past three years.

She told me that jane told her older sister who told alices brother (they're boyfriend and girlfriend) who then told neo that all of janes family are very angry with anne as they think she is currupting jane.

Jane said that anne had told her that alices room needs to be exorcised and that she sees dark energies.Anne and jane are both extremely religious catholics. Anne has also told jane that she's sees a caped demona bove her when she prays.She later told her she was lying.She also told jane that before she met her she wasn't religious and that she inspired her to become religious.This is a lie anne and her family have always been devout catholics.Alice has told me that jane didn't like anne but when alice told her this she felt like she had to be her friend.Everyone is saying that anne has manipulated us into being her friend and when i look back on certain situations i believe there is some truth in this though i'm not sure.Anne also really flirted with the guy that alice really liked right infront of her awhile back.

I think anne wants to be the leader of our group.Me and alice had a long discussion about it and we're both worried for jane.

Alice believes that anne never really wanted to be our friend and was only using us as she had no other friends as nobody apart from me now,really likes her.Alice and jane both want to stop bein her friend and are gong to tell her that in a few days.I don't know what to do though.When i look back on things i can see that she has subtley manipulated certain things but for some reason i can't seem to get mad at her.Alice thinks that this is because anne has already sucked me in to far.

I just can't believe that anne would do something like this and use us the way people says she has.I dont just want to throw away three years of friendship.Several people have described anne as dark and alice is worried that if her and jane break things off with anne but i still remain her friend that anne might turn us against each other and that we'll be split up~ her and jane then me and anne.I don't know what to do and i'm very upset and confused.I just want us all to be friends again. Am i wrong to think that anne can change? Am i deluding myself into thinking that there can be a happy ending?what does evryone think i should do? i really need some advice

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  1. well go find out as much as u can tell all of them the truth and stick by it but it appears as though you aere the middleman, so i'd recomend hanging out with one girl at a time and to stay away from their situation


  2. i everyone is saying that, then it must be true. EVERYONE can"t be wrong

  3. Who and what is this neo one you so randomly threw in there? I quite don't understand the question...

    But heres my answer-

    I agree with alice, if your friend is being manipulative and 'dark' and everyone thinks so... then chances are shes not a great friend then is she. That would be alices opinion though. Alice seems to strongly believe that she cant go back to being friends with anne. Also her family are pushing her in that direction. Alice won't go back. You however could stay friends with anne and alice. Although this means you will no longer be a group its possible. Although i'd strongly reccomend you to drop anne incase you get hurt. Its your decision. It will affect you- so don't base your opinion on what alice, anne or jane have to say. Look inside yourself (not literally) and find the right answer for you. Not for alice anne or jane.

    Its sad to think you took your lab child into a world like this, where she now only has one mother. (the other one has moved abroad to 5a) and her other mother currently sleeps 40 feet away. d**n anne. =P

  4. Have a chat with her face too face eye too eye.

    See what she says about it.

    If you dont come to a resoloution then i think give up.


  5. Stop the drama! Forget about these messed-up, gossip-ridden "friends" of yours! There are more than 5 people in the universe, and I'm sure this situation will work out without any real incident. Just ride the wave and see what happens. Don't take any rash action against anyone.

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