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Everyone is trying to control my life!!!!! Soap opera?

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I bought a house with my mother. My sister wanted her part of the "estate" since my mother was putting the down payment on the house. My mother already gave her money for her down payment for her own house. My sister got $12, 500 but was angry because my mother and I talked about it and she wasn't included. She went to my mother and got $3,000 more and then called me and told me she was angry with me for not including her on the discussion. Her daughter got $2,500 too. The house my mom and I bought has a downstairs apartment that we fixed up for my daughter to rent at a reduced rate. While the apartment was being renovated my daughter was living with my mother. My daughter is nine months pregnant. The apartment renovations took 2 weeks longer than expected and in the meantime my mother got sick with cancer. During this whole time, my sister did not help AT ALL in the moving or unpacking. My mother went to a friend's house and apparently told her that she hated living with my daughter. Her friend came over and blasted my daughter about how lazy she was and she had to move out that night. Her apartment was going to be done in 3 days. My sister hopped on the bandwagon and told me what a lazy spoiled kid I have. Now she and my mother's friend are going over to my mother's and my house to "work" on it for my mother-finish unpacking and set my mother's room up. I haven't moved in yet- the upstairs is mine. I feel like now that my mother is ill, I have no say in anything at the house. My sister has made it clear that my daughter should be paying a certain amount and that everything should happen the way she wants it to happen. I want the best for my mother but I can't live under those critical watchful eyes. Help!! oh, when my mother went into the hospital, my sister took almost $3,000 from my mother's account to buy her daughter a car.

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  1. Your sister is a concieted bitty who is only thinking of herself. Not even putting your mom first. Apparently while being raised, she never learned just cuz one child got something, didn't mean the other child got something too. (sorry I have a sister that is just like this and it makes me sick to deal with her). Sit down with your mom without your sister being around. Talk to her about this. I see know problem if your daughter rents the apt in the house, she will be close to you and will be needing help with the baby. Your there taking care of your mom's health while your sister is taking care of herself with your mom 's money. Check into geting power of attorney over her accounts and medical power of atttorney to protect herself from sister pulling the plug to early on her life and bank account.


  2. Yikes, this is rough, and to hard to get involved in.

    Your mom should be the most important thing in all of your lives right now, she needs there to be peace if she is to try and make a recovery from this cancer.

    I wish the very best for your mom.

  3. Your Mom has the right to do with her money as she wishes.Next, your daughter is 19, pregnant and not working.Why?

    Once you move in to your part of the house, allow your daughter to move in with YOU in your part of the house, tell your mom and sister to stay out of your business.

    Next, your daughter once the baby is born should have 3 months to get her life together, get a job(or part time job and college) and get on her feet.After 3 months you file for custody of the baby and send the  mother to a homeless shelter, she NEEDS to learn to stand on her own 2 feet or she will be running to live with her b/fs and then back to you after sge gets pregnant and dumped over and over.

    Try to help your mom out seeing she is sick and may not live much longer.Tell your sister, she had the opportunity to let your mom move in with her and she didn't jump on it.

    I noticed there are no mention of men in your family.There is a reason for this.If worse comes to worse,maybe your daughter's dad will take her in?


  4. Your mother is priority right now.  Don't engage with your sister.  Let her do what she needs to do in your mother's area.  If she wants to play mea culpa, just say, " I appreciate your help with getting the house ready for mom but I don't want to talk about the other issues".  It is your house, too.  I assume you and your mother discussed and made arrangements both living and financial before this happened.  Your mother was probably venting steam and her friend thought she was being helpful.  As for men, why would that make a difference..geesh and btw..nice name..lol  Good luck to you and take care of you!

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