Everyone seems more excited then I am?

Question

Ok so Im 20 weeks right now. I find out on thurs what the s*x is? Everyone keeps asking am I excited? Really I wanna say not really. cuz that is how I feel. Is that wrong? This is me and my husbands first baby and it was planned and all. I just feel I should be more excited and cant wait and all that jazz but Im not. maybe im just tired of all the comments maybe its taking away from my excitement. I feel like everyday its something. are you taking your vitamins? your gonna tell us the s*x as soon as you find out? right? what are your names? and then all the unwanted advice. Maybe its all too much..I should just tell everyone to back off. I just dont know how. Maybe its the emotions thing but who knows. I feel like yea im pregnant but thats not all I am. Help im confused.

Answer 1

It can get a bit overwhelming at times if you have family members on your case all the time. It doesn't give you time to enjoy anything. Plus the hormones are running wild and if you're tired then it makes it worse.

If you think the unwanted advice is annoying now, wait til you have the baby!!

You might just have to say to people that you're feeling a little overwhelmed and can they just let you have some time out for a minute. They might be understanding but if you don't say anything then it's not going to stop.

It's quite common for people to feel emotionally unattatched from their pregnancy etc, try not to worry about it too much. Once you lay eyes on your baby you will feel so much love, nothing else will matter

Answer 2

It can be normal to not feel exited. She or he is a big commitment and their is no going back. So yes your nervous. I'm expecting and am about 24 wks I feel nervous too.This is my third child! I think it shows you care because only a child would say I'm not worried or I got this! The best advice I can give is to enjoy your pregnancy and not to worry because when that little one is put in your arms you'll just melt. If you continue to worry excessively about it tell your doctor.... especially if it continues after birth. It could be postpartum. By the way it is nothing to be ashamed of! Lots of women get it! It usually goes away gladly! Hope all goes well!

Answer 3

I felt exactly the same as you.  Dont worry things will get better.  For me it was an unplanned, completely unexpected thing.  I was told I couldn't have kids when I was young, and then routinely throughout check ups and such.  I had prepared for not having children - then come to find through the pill and my inability to produce children, i was pregnant!  It took me a bit to be excited, but eventually I was very excited.  People will always ask about the pregnancy, so get used to it.  After - people will always ask about the baby.  You'll be a mommy soon so be ready for it! Every time my phone rings, the first thing is "How's Troy?"  People definately care about him more, so be ready for that.  I dont mind though.  Being pregnant was hard for me, I even told my husband I didn't want 'it'.  Once you get busy preparing things should get better, I really enjoyed the nusery set up... and the moment I saw my son I felt so guilty about everything bad I ever felt about being pregnant.  I still do, but changing hormones really trick you!  It will get better.

Answer 4

When people give advice sometimes they don't realize that they are pushy and they just want to make sure that you are feeling alright.

Not a bad thing, but sometimes after being asked the same things over and over you just want to start punching them as they ask. Most of this is because you are pregnant and that solely puts the attention on you. You probably are hormonal as your body is preparing for your little one. I can promise you the question or the advice will not stop until after baby is born, even if you kindly say something.

On a personal note, i stopped answering my door, my phone, emails and everything as i was about 8 to 9 months along. The only one i would talk to was my husband. I too was only 20 and my baby wasn't really planned but i stopped the pill because i got married. Believe me i heard it all! Just hang in there and tolerate it as much as possible, they only care thats all.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 5

haha reading this makes me laugh lol. im not preg and have ever been but im dreading when i am.im moving out with my bf next week and his mom is constantly telling we what to do how to do and when to do everything. it drives me nuts i know its not the same as a baby but it makes me mad. and when i am i know it will be the same, actually once a couple months ago his mom asked me when i get prego(which hopefully wont be for like 5 years (just turned 18) if i will breast feed, so i said no and she was like "oh well blah blah blah" and i was like  my mom didt me ad i am fine, ad she is just not happy with it. lol and when i am preganate i am dreading for the exact same reason your not excited everyones opionion. i bet you just wanna tear out their troats stomp o them and say shut up its my life my baby mine mine mine would you please just let me enjoy it. lol

Answer 6

I didn't get that excited either when I was about to find out. Actually I was more scared than anything! I was so nervous when we were there and at first they told me it might be to early (I was 16 weeks). Then I realized I really wanted to know. And the advice thing will only get worse wait till your really showing and random strangers come up and shove advice down your throat. There have been time where I thought I would choke someone out even my mother and mother in law.

Answer 7

- cool down.

- relax as much as possible.

- listen to slow numbers, which are mild.

- have plenty of mild food..

- move around and relax ur body..

- forget all those factors.. ppl just want to talk to u.. that's it.  

Answer 8

i am 3 months, this is my 2nd. i think people talk and ask questions more he 2nd time round then the first. i understand how you feel, i am getting the same thing. everybody is really excited and i am to, but im so over being sick and thinking bout stuff..... maybe they dont no what to talk to you about.

Answer 9

lol

thats funny

well every1s different

maybe u havnt gotten though ur mind that UR HAVIN A BAYYYBEEE!

Answer 10

Everyone is different. You may feel excited when the baby arrives! Or when he starts kicking and moving more. Dosen't mean you will be a bad mom ;)  

Answer 11

well I don't think you want people to get mad at you for being rude, so you could always try "faking" it. If someone asks "are you excited" then just say yes and leave it at that. There's no rule that says you have to give every person all the details. But in case you're pregnancy hormones are making you moody, you don't want to start biting people's heads off and then feel bad about it later. People are just excited when other people are pregnant, especially people who already have kids. We know how great it is to be a parent and when someone else is about to join the club, it is exciting. Just try to view it from a more positive angle. It could be worse, what if no one was interested in your pregnancy at all? When you're pregnant you're obviously going to be more annoyed at certain things but people are not asking you things to be mean or annoying.  

Answer 12

Your not exited right now, you might be when you have the baby...

Just tell people that your not really exited right now and you don't just want to be seen as pregnant.  

Answer 13

Girl I know what you mean when I was pregnant with my first son I was sooooooo excited and when he was born we bonded right away, then with my second one I was bitter, angry and very very tired and I hated any and everybody then to make matters worst when I had my baby we didn't bond until about a week later and my friend was the same way and she didn't bond with her baby until he was 3mos. so don't feel bad being a parent is a c**p game it's win or lose(smile) j/k it's a wonderful experience it just happens different for everyone, just smile and keep your cool it will be over soon and you'll be a mommy!!!

Answer 14

i had the same thing wen i found out it was planned n we were desperate for a baby but all i felt when i got tht + was overwhelming fear! every1 was so excited but no one asked how i felt it was all about them i snapped at 6 weeks n told everyone to stop being so ott they backed off n gave me chance to get excited which was great  

Answer 15

its ok chicken! itll be because everybody else is just excited because a ew littl aby is going to be around and its exciting but your the one going through the pregnancy all the sickness and tiedness etc, you dont have time to get as excited as everyone else, once it comes you will be overwhelmes, good luck xx