Everyone - who have you lost?

Question

Everyone - who have you lost?

Answer 1

My mother's late husband died six years ago, from the most terrible disease: pancreatic cancer with liver metastasis. Although he was not my real father, he was very much like a father to me and one of the dearest husbands to my mother. He was only 57 years old (can you imagine?), the doctors told him he was going to die in six months, and it was exactly six months.

Then, last summer, my aunt from Romania also died from throat cancer, and she was only 54. She was also my mother's sister, and so she meant a lot to both my mother and I.

But yet I know that it was just time for God to take them home, and now they are at peace. God rest them in peace.

Answer 2

my grand father to suicide, my grandmother to cancer, my other grand father to cancer, my uncle to murder, my other uncle to traffic colision, my cousin got driven over by my grandfather with a tracktor by accident, my other grandmother to old age, one of my school friends were shot by the cops and almost lost my mother to suicide.

Answer 3

One of my paternal uncles died of HIV when I was 1, he was 38.

My paternal grandfather died of some sort of respiratory problem when I was 2, he was 62.

My maternal grandmother died of pneumonia brought on by Alzheimer's when I was 12, she was 81.

My paternal grandmother died of cancer when I was 15, she was 75.

*RIP*

Answer 4

I lost my Uncle to lung cancer, when I was twelve.

I lost my Dad to a drunk driver, when I was thirteen.

I lost my sister to suicide, a month ago.

I lost my son to leukemia, three weeks ago.

I just hope and pray that I don't lose anyone else.

Answer 5

I lost my best friend. He was riding a bicycle to visit his girlfriend at night and was hit from behind by a hit-and-run driver and was killed instantly. I was the one who had to tell his girlfriend he was dead.

He was going to be the best man at my wedding, Eight months later I got married, and had my old friend from High School in his place. I still think of him often. He was kind, gentile, considerate, patient, and very very thoughtful. I try to be more like him each day of my life.

Answer 6

Because of my abusive past, I have lost the ability to develop healthy relationships with others.  I have lost the self I could have been if trauma had not happened to me.  Life is not easy.

Answer 7

my 6 week old neice, my 3 yo son, my father, 30yo brother n sister in law

Answer 8

My beautiful cat Tabitha.  :-[

Answer 9

my dear uncle :(

Answer 10

dad when i was 17 and my daughter who was born at 24 weeks of pregnancy its terrible to lose someone i know but it is something every single one of us will or has experienced i send my thoughts to everyone who is grieving for someone they loved x

Answer 11

i lost my parents in car accident. my dad died instantly my mom died 3 days after at intensive care

Answer 12

I lost my sister because of the bosnian war and my nana to old age :((  

Answer 13

Everything!

Answer 14

My great nan,2 nans,a grandad,and the worse one was my 19 year old brother.+few friends,hard life that's all I can say.

Answer 15

My beloved brother, just last month. And to make it even harder, his wife mistreated him in his last weeks. He was sick and needed help, but would not get help without his wife's approval. It makes me ill how she treated him. He killed himself.  

Answer 16

both my birth parents to suicide when i was an infant

my birth sister when we were adopted into differant familys (alive but lost)

my grandfather to cancer

my aunt to who heck knows what

my grandmother altzimers/parkingsons

the other set grandparents

my nephew/soulmate to suicide

my adoptive father to drugs and drink ( alive but lost )

my first husband to drink ( alive and finally lost )

couple of child hood friends

couple of adult friends

my daughter in a way as she was an adult when i moved to america and she opted to stay in the uk as she had already struck out on her own life ( though i do get to talk to her frequently though its not the same)

my second husband when he couldnt cope with my cancer ( alive and thankfully lost )

but most importantly my boys when i got cancer and had to seek an alternative family for them because i was too ill to care for them

on the other hand .. what have i gained ... an inner strength, acceptance of that which i cant change, an understanding of human nature, the ability to survive, and who i am was shaped by what i experienced which in turn shaped 4 wonderful caring children, who though i  had to give them up still continue to prosper into the wonderful loving people ( three of them adults now ) that they are now

not to mention the firm knowledge that if your going to move to america get a full physical health check up and any dental work done on the national health before you move ;-)

loss is a normal part of life something we all experience.. if we take from each that we knew and lost, that which was best about them, then the loss was not wasted and the knowing them was not wasted, as they will live on in thought heart and mind and in our actions that they guided us towards. even those who were a negative influence have  played a role in who we become and we can gain strength from knowing them.

to dwell morbidly on the grief of loss is to leave that potential untapped and unfulfilled and not something that those we have loved and lost would wish for.

Answer 17

no yet got it all to come hope its a long way off yet

Answer 18

I lost my grandma to cancer.