Everything seems great with him but i'm terrified of where it will end up?

Question

I started seeing someone (he lives six doors away) just a couple of months ago. It started out at a drunken party and we've pretty much been together ever since. Our lives our totally different (he's an unemployed alcoholic who is involved in drugs, crime and violence) and I work and am pretty well behaved (most the time). However, we are on the same wavelength in many ways, he's ten years older than me and very sweet and caring. I feel like I love him. We both live alone and that's how the relationship escalated. Now we're spending most days together, I have had to talk to him a few times to tell him to back off when he gets too demanding and he's been okay with it. Everything seems fine and manageable but i'm worried we want different things and that it won't work out. If it doesn't he's there - on my doorstep and I would worry that he will try to harm me in some way (slash my tyres, break my windows).. things he's done to other neighbours who have pisssed him off. I now I'm crazy for getting into another hectic/doomed relationship. What's wrong with me and what shall I do? I'm scared I've gone too far now and really messed up my life. I can't move because it's a council flat and I have two cats and I won't get another and can't afford a private let

Answer 1

it sounds like a dream come true. a relationship made in heaven - wake up

Answer 2

Geeze...why? You described the man as 'unemployed alcoholic who is involved in drugs, crime and violence' and still got involved with him?

If you really want out, get the police involved. This isn't love...this is fear...

Answer 3

You are a silly girl for getting involved with a bad boy. You need to start applying ice to this relationship yesterday. No matter how lonely you get or whatever start backing off now and stay backed off. Tell him you have feelings for me or that your x is pregnant who cares just make something up to get him believing that you are NOT an option for him and stick to it!

Answer 4

Start avoiding him asap.  He is going to be a problem for you.  You will probably eventually have to move.  Learn from the mistake.

Answer 5

Oh dear.

Sounds like deep down you don't want to be with him at all - and I really don't blame you. Breaks windows and slashes tyres when people pi*ss him off? Blimey.

Seriously, move. The council could re-house you, or maybe you could swap with someone. Got to be worth looking into.

Answer 6

Dam Girl, you like the bad boys...a man will go as far as we let them go...is good that you started by telling him to back off now at the beginning of the relationship...but them again with crazy guys with a history like his, you never know.  If you are only having a good time for a while is ok, just be safe...but the you feeling like you love him, that is wrong..he is not good for you and you know it...have fun and then look for a nice guy that would treat you like a princess...

Answer 7

I think you should be terrified. Come on now, I think you already know the answer to your own question.

Answer 8

Run ! Like h**l ! As fast as you can! If your in doubt this much its not a good thing. Try to avoid him as much as possible without being obvious. If you don't move your gonna have to tell him sooner than later.

Good luck girl.