Everythings just different.?

Question

kay so me and my boyfriend recently found out were pregnant.. i just turned 18 hes just turning 20. HE wanted this for so long. we didnt plan this but it happened. and NOW its like ever since we found out a switch went off and hes so different and im so different. we arent getting along. and my emotions are just way to hard to deal with for him... hes trying though i know he is. is it his fault? my fault? what should i do to make this better?

Answer 1

just be nicer and try not to have to many mood swings.

:D

Answer 2

First, be thankful you are an adult and not another dependent high school teenager.

I think we need more details. What is causing you guys not to get along? Did something happen? Besides for the baby what else is causing the awkwardness? Is marriage in the picture?

Answer 3

Communicate.  Communication is so important.  You both have to realize that you are a hormonal mess, so you need to try to be calm, and he needs to try to be understanding.  But it won't help if you can't talk to each other about how you feel.

Answer 4

...you and your b/f have several issues to get clarified...

...you say your b/f wantred this pregnancy for so long...but you don't say you did...so maybe you didn't think it was so big a deal as he did & that is bothering you...you've got to know he is the person you want to try to spend the rest of your life with in your family...also you have so many differences in your body from being pregnant that reallly influence a relationship & make it difficult for you two to "get" along sometimes...

...first you've got to come to grips with how you feel about having a baby now & how you feel towards your b/f...that means you've got to sit down together & have a heart-to-heart talk about your future together...you've also got to convince him that altho you are both having some trouble getting along he has to give you his support & he needs some info on pregnancy to help him along in understanding your circumstances...it sounds like he wants to help but doesnt know what to do...

...also you've got to know you are goinng thru so many new changes both physically & emotionally...mostly caused by hormone and the facts that your life is changing right now...you've got mood changes and  physical changes as the pregnancy continues (mood changes, different s*x drives, nausea, eating problems, bloating, tender body parts, swelling in feet & legs, sore back, cramping, icreased weaight as you show & doctor visits)...most of these are both new & somewhat unpleasant...

..as indicated before you've got to have clear lines of communication between the both of you...include him in your pregnancy & let him help you when he can (support is the most important)...even tho your emotions are off the scale, let him know this is temporary & natural & not get to weirded out or scared off...

...remember you two, AND the baby are the most important people in your life...both you & your b/f are going thru a lot of stress right now...it's probably neither's "fault" how your relationship is now...you've got to be able to count on each other for the babies sake...

Answer 5

No,I don't think it's anyone's fault.I think you 2 should just keep the baby and take care of it.Good luck!