Ex best friend, how do i forget?

Question

i was friends with my best friend for about 2 years. She got a boyfriend last year and we were still friends though she hung out with him, but i completely understood.

Later, i met someone who truly was amazing and we started to date.

And though we saw each other less we were STILL friends. And then i herd that she was talking trash behind my back. But i let it go. And then when i got injured from playing volleyball instead of coming to see me, (i was really badly hurt) she went out with her other friend who hates me and had dinner like nothing at all. Everyone told me she didn't even really care.

I stopped talking to her, and she never called me to apologized or explain herself. We are no longer friends.

How do i get over this? This really bothers me when i think about it.

I hate who shes become, such a fake person. Her boyfriend lies and cheats on her and she acts as if they're madly in love. And he told her lies about me and so she believe him and hates me for all the LIES he told her. He has a reputation for being a big lier.

What do i do from here? i know we will never friends again. She told me she didn't want to. I miss having a girl best friend, a part of me hates her, how do i move past this and forget about her completely?

Answer 1

People change with time, it's a dreaded fact of life. Both of you were best friends for two years and that's a long time. But think about it, if you've been so close for that long, she wouldn't believe such lies. Plus, she wouldn't be going out with someone who isn't in terms with you.

She's putting her boyfriend ahead of her best friend, and probably thinks that what she's doing is alright even if it isn't. Sometimes, such a change will drift both of you apart. And it isn't your fault.

Forgetting is a hard thing to do. It isn't easy because she was once a part of your life. But there are many other people who still genuinely care for you and wouldn't leave you in the dark. For all you know, one of them could be your next best friend, someone who would have done the opposite of what she did. Tell yourself that she can't appreciate a friend like you, and that you deserve better.

You'll find one day another better-best-friend, perhaps she's even close to you already.

Answer 2

An easy thing you can do is start talking to other girls. In your class or church or where ever. Invit them to go eat watch a movie or come over to study. Friendships are made very easily if you just try.

But if you want her to be your friend or help her you can play detective and try to take pictures of her boyfriend cheating. Or just talk to her about it. Because if she was truly your bestfriend you should understand and help her. Tell her hes being a fake and lieing to her face. [this is were youd show her the pictures] its just sad to let it go after so long. Obviously he was changing her. But hey if it doesnt do anything and she doesnt believe you, you can at least know you tried. And can make new friends. Hope i helped and good luck.

Answer 3

First off since you both miss the friendship, i suggest that you both TALK IT OUT. Its not really to late to ever turn back unless you still want to be friends. If that doesn't work out still then i guess you can FORGIVE and FORGET. Forgive what she did, and then just FORGET that she ever existed in your life. I would suggest talking to her in real life, since you guys still see each other around, maybe in hallways say hi ! and see wassup, if she really doesn't want to then move on !! 2 can play the same game !! You can always find another friend, you can definitely move on still (: GOOD LUCK !!  

Answer 4

replace her. replace her and move on. if you keep thinking about it, it'll just bug you more. so it's better to just move on with your life.

Answer 5

Do something relaxing. Go to the movies with your amazing someone. Talk to him about it on the green hill behind your tree while playing your favorite music.If it still bugs you after that, ask her why. Call your friend up and ask her why you must do this. It might be rumor spreading and the whole, "Pst Pst I heard that (you) was talking dirty behind your back Pst Pst." "How dare she!"

Answer 6

talk it out.

if you really are friends with someone you should learn to forgive and forget.

Answer 7

well the same thing happened to me but a little different situation, me and my friend we were best friends for 16 years until she did something so terrible that i will/carnt ever forgive her for. now we are still not friends we haven't been friends for 6 years and i still think about her all the time and it makes me up-set since we grew up together i really carnt forget her because all my memories are with her so now i just think of her as my old best friend someone that helped me become who i am today and someone who i had a great childhood with. i don't have a answer for your question because i don't think you can ever forget your true friends and if you can then you weren't really friends in the first place. don't worry if her boyfriend is really like you say he is she will come back to you and she'll be saying sorry to you for how she treated you. they wont last long and she will need you, and when she does it will be your choice to be her friend again or not if you don't then it will probably help you get over her and what she did to you..

sorry i don't have a better answer for you but if i say the only way to get over her would be to replace her i would be lying because it doesn't work :))

good luck and i hope you work it out  

Answer 8

you will never forget about it, but if you find new friends, and show that you moved on, even if you havent completely then eventually you may be able to let it go.