I dated a guy for two years in high school, and spent first year of college briefly getting back together and breaking up (and breaking his heart multiple times). It was a long distance thing and I didn't really think it would work.
He and his wife have been together for 14 years and married for 12.
I've sporadically stayed in touch by email, and was on his Christmas card list, and got his emails with pictures of and stories about his kids.
He had a long bout with cancer.
I have been crying some, but mostly when thinking about his kids growing up without him. His youngest son doesn't quite understand.
People have asked me "is he the one that got away?" and I say no. He was much better off with his wife than he would have been with me.
I think he and his fiancee/wife were trying to keep me at a safe distance.
I just now realized that she probably knew him, at least as an acquaintance, when I was still dating him.
I had thought of writing a card to his widow, something along the lines of:
He was a nice sweet guy, and you were really good for him. Give the kids an extra hug for me. I know this must be very rough on you all.
Any thoughts about wording?
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