Ex boyfriends mom? ?

Question

I posted before about how my ex boyfriends mom didn't believe I was pregnant and said I was "pregnant" just to keep her son around, and because I wasn't over him. I'm 15, and he's 18. She didn't want to see me, so I sent ultra sound photographs, and I was told they were photo shopped. I ended up meeting up with her, giving her the originals, and I took a pregnancy test that came back positive in front of her. She said "now that the truth is out, I will tell him, and he will be involved." It's been 5 weeks. I havent heard from him. Only his mom. Except for one message on myspace. I told him when and where the appointment was and that HIM and only him were invited. He never came.

I heard from someone else, that his mom and sister were expecting to be in the delivery room, and I dont even want them near me when im giving birth. I'd rather them not even come to the hospital, there more than welcome to see the baby once I get home. I'd be more than willing to have the father in the room though.

I don't know how to tell her she's not going to be in the room with me.

Answer 1

Usually in hosptials they only let (3) people back there, and I'm sure you have close family members that you will want. As far as not wanting them at the hopstial, you can have seruity guards at the door waiting, I know someone who did.

Now let me get to your boyfriend, break ups are hard really REALLY hard, and I'm sure it's been even harder on you since your pregnant with his kid, but if he acts like this, why do you want to continue to waste your time with him, he has proven he doesn't care about you at all. If he did he would of never left much less be putting you threw so much stress with his mother, he needs to step up a be a man and he has had plenty of time to do so im my opinion, I think he is lame, and honestly no girl deserves that. You can do so much better then that, I've seen your pictures your a really pretty girl.

Answer 2

thats whats security's for if she shows up have her escourted out thats if she just shows up, just tell her that you dont want anyone in the room and she can see you when ur at home plain and simple  

Answer 3

Another dumb ***

Answer 4

umm it sounds like he doesn't want to be bothered with you. His mom wants to be their for her grandchild, I'm not saying she should be in the delivery room but at least they are making an effort to be part of the child's life. You contacted him about an appointment and he didn't come. I hate to tell you this but it really sounds like he doesn't want you or to date you or to be the father of your baby. Mom can't control him that much. My partner wants to go to my appointments ( i told him he doesn't need to go) and wants to know everything about the pregnancy to the point where it annoys me.

My brother was a teenage dad and he was their for his girlfriend all the way even though my parents hated her. If he wanted to be there and considering his mother is supportive of the pregnancy now that she knows for a fact you are pregnant you just have to accept the fact that he is a jerk and keep it moving. A jerk is a jerk is a jerk even if you want to date him, even if your having his baby.

You want to blame his mom but it doesn't sound like his mom was doing anything but supporting her son who probably told her you were faking the pregnancy and didn't want to talk to you. So like a true coward had his mother intercept the situation making her look like the bad guy.

Answer 5

well when i went to the hospital i had  to sign and write the names of who was to be in the room i put my husband and my mother . i have control over if shes there or not . dont let people push u around and i wouldnt hold my breath u need to stop stressing ur gonna cause ur baby stress which can mean pre labor and all . u did  ur part now see if he comes around . and u better get custody  

Answer 6

He's 18 years old and his mother still controls him.  Contact him privately and tell him to man-up if he wants any involvement in his child's life.  Also get an attorney so that you can get support payments from him - I'd bet you a million that his mother has already hired one for him.

Answer 7

Just tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her or her daughter in the delivery room. Your the one having the baby and you're only gonna want the people you feel comfortable and are closest to in that room while your bearing all. If he doesn't want to partake in his childs life then thats his loss, at least your trying to involve him.

I wouldn't stress out about these things because you need to take it easy. Good luck with everything.  

Answer 8

If you are a pregnant teen without family or partner support, you need to look at open adoption for your baby. Your ex-partner obviously wants nothing to do with this.

Teen Pregnancy:

http://web.mac.com/pregnancysecrets/Site...

"s*x won't make him yours, and a baby won't make him stay." Advice from teens to teens.

Answer 9

tell her its your decision and that you do not feel comfortable with them in the room with everything going on. we had this problem with my fiance's mother she thought she was going to be in the room and my fiance was like "her own mother isn't going to be in the room, what makes you think that you are" we both just wanted tobe alone. just let her know how you feel it's the best advice i can give you. just remember it's not HER choice it is YOUR choice and the doctors won't allow anyone in the room that you dont want. so tell them ahead of time.