Ex emailed me on vday??

Question

ok my ex and i broke up 2 years ago and after we broke up we remained friends and would sometimes hook up (kiss). i found out that he now has a new girlfriend (he didnt tell me) which ill admit hurts a bit because i still love him...he still calls me every now and then even though hes in a relationship...i just told him to stop calling me and texting me because its the only way that i can move on and get my mind off of him...well its been over a month and my ex decided to email me wishing me a happy valentines day..why do you think he emailed me this when i've told him to stop calling me?? what's his reasoning for this?? also, do you think i should reply to his email?? if yes, what should i say?? should i be cold or nice?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like he is using you as a safety net.  While he is experimenting with moving on, he likes the comfort of knowing you are there just in case.  He is trying to keep a hook on you by contacting you just often enough that you can't stop thinking about him, but not enough so that you get pissy towards him.  He's using you as an emotional crutch, and I suggest you put a dead stop to this.  Tell him flat out and authoritatively that you have asked him not to contact you, and not to do it again.

Answer 2

your just a safety net m8

Answer 3

I wouldn't respond.  He has a new girlfriend......doesn't seem to worried about you.  So.......no I wouldn't reply to the email.

Answer 4

You had BETTER stand your ground, because if you do NOT, he will be knocking at your door!

Email him back, and REMIND him that you told him to not contact you anymore, and that you are not at all amused at his refusal to honor your wish.  No need to be nasty OR to be nice.  Just state the FACTS and nothing more.

Answer 5

thts a tough one, but if he email u wishing u a happy vaneltines day then in my opinion, he still has some feelings for u..... weather u want to reply cold or nice, its up to u, weather u dont want anything to do w/ him or if u do... idk if im right, but its my opinion.... hope it  helped....

Answer 6

we answered this question again and again last time it was in phsycology,,,

Answer 7

It could be a few things.

Valentine's day might have made him realize he still had something for you or that he isn't as happy with his new girl.

Or he was just trying to be nice and thoughtful.

Sometimes guys don't think about the deep aspects of things they say and do. I know this because I am one and I constantly put my foot in my mouth. So there's a chance he sent it just to be nice and didn't think it would upset/bug you.

I say just e-mail him back and say Happy Valentine's Day, thanks for the e-mail. And keep it simple like that.

Answer 8

I know, right?  This question has been asked at least 3 times in the last week. Whats wrong? Dont you like any of the answers here?  Are you obsessed with this guy or something?  GET OVER HIM, ALREADY!!!!!!!!  Move on, honey.  Life is TOOOOOO short.

Answer 9

He probably just cares about you and want to keep in touch. People who come in an out of your life still leave a impression and you still think about them once in a while. If you can't talk to him right now. then Tell him you are still not heald and would like him to noe contact you but when you are ready you will.

Answer 10

I agree with missbean except you should not reply to him.  If you want to truly move on you need to distance yourself from him completely.  He is still contacting you just in case something falls through with his relationship, you do not want to be that girl.  Move on and things will work out for you.