Ex-girlfriend is pregnant with my baby, and won't let me be there for the birth or let me see the baby!! help!

Question

Basically, my girlfriend left me after she realized her and her mother couldn't manipulate me anymore. She is also evidently VERY mentally unstable. She moved far away back to her parent's house (300 miles away), and none of them will communicate with me whatsoever...and it's hard to prove on here, but I really am not a bad guy...she's just a highly delusional psychopath I think. Has anyone had this situation before? Is there a way I can find out where my baby is being born? It is really very important to me to see my newborn daughter in the hospital nursery, and I will do whatever is necessary. Also, I am very fearful that either her or her mother will do something very crazy, like move her to another state, as they are for some reason h**l bent on me not even getting to see my baby girl. Is there any way around this other than hiring a private investigator to monitor her actions, calls, etc..? I thank anyone who can give a serious or helpful response.

Answer 1

just  tell   here   see the  baby

Answer 2

Go see a lawyer and file for custody or at least visiting rights.She may be planning to give the baby up for adoption and in some states if you dont make it clear legally with a lawyer that you want your fathers rights while she is still pregnant she can do just that without your consent so see a lawyer right away.Also Dr phil just had a show about this so go to his website and check the shows of the last few weeks .It should be there.

Answer 3

Really the only thing that you can do is whatever state she is in and your in... look up the laws first....second wait until she has the baby then YOU file for half custody... cause with you trying to be around her and calling her.. she will slap a PFA on you and then you will never see your daughter... stay away for now... then take her to court with a lawyer and try to see your baby.. the courts are going to look at that you TRYING and her not letting you see the baby... makes her look bad.. get things that she is unstable durgs.. drinking.. ect.. you have to prove it. Good luck to you..

Answer 4

It concerns me that you're calling this woman a delusional psychopath. That's a strong clinical claim. Somehow I doubt that you could even define it. If you are highly dramatic in your dealings with this woman it will NOT benefit your child. Rachet back the rhetoric.

Answer 5

Unfortunately I don't think there is much chance of you seeing your baby girl the day she is born, sorry. I'm sure you are a nice guy, and by the sounds of it you are going to be a caring father. There isn't much you can do to track her yourself, and thats actualy considered stalking even though you aren't doing it in a creepy way. The hospital most likely won't tell you if she is having the baby there or not, its against the law to reveal whether a patient is staying at the hospital or not (at least where I live) You will probably end up going to family court to get part time or full time custody of your daughter. If you have evidence that she is drinking, doing drugs or that she or her mother might do anything to harm the baby then the court will take it very seriously since its the wellbeing of the child and you will most likely get full custody. If you don't have evidence, then don't press it too far and settle for shared custody at the moment or it could make you look out to be vendictive and the judge will not look kindly upon that. What ever you do, stay calm, don't do anything to try to take your baby girl without the courts permision, and most importantly keep your nose clean! Don't get so much as a speeding ticket from now on. I wouldn't go out drinking with friends either because for all you know she or her mother could have hired a private detective and their trying to make you look bad if you fight for custody. My dad's ex wife did that when they were fighting for custody of my brother. She got pictures of him going to a liquor store (on the 4th of july, go figure!) and tired to use that in court and it worked, she had custody of my brother until he was 14. Anything you do from now on could be looked up and used against you. I wish you luck and it'll all be fine.

Answer 6

hmmm... you could find out what hospital she is at (call the local hospitals in her area) and go there, but that would probably cause too much drama and trouble for the family.

you can get rights to see this child though, since it is yours. you can take her to court and get visitation/or some type of custody.

if they move her to another state, then move there too!!! this is your child just as much as it is hers you should fight for it.

good luck =)