Ex husband wont tex back is he over me already?

Question

broke up with him bout 2 weeks ago up until 3 days ago we were texing and were bein nice.we broke up cause he hit me and i went to the police he went to court today and ive texed him just trying to talk and he wont reply.i was trying to get him help by gettin him arrested for hitting me as he wouldnt get help wen we were 2 getha.i still love him alot and i hurting and thinking maybe ive done the wrong thing is it over and hes over me?.how long till i no 4 sure? i miss him and wanna give him anotha chance.

Answer 1

If he hit you as a one time thing that doesn't make it right, but don't listen to people who say he will definitely hit you again, because that's not necessarily true.  Sure, he probably will hit you again, but it's not a definite fact.  If you want to give him another chance than do it.

However, he's probably pissed at you for calling the cops and having him arrested.  The way he sees it, in my opinion, is that you ratted him out and now he's in all kinds of trouble with the law and has a criminal record.  That being said, he's bad news.  If he can't even admit his wrong doings and take his punishment like a man, you don't want anything to do with him, trust me.

Stop calling and texting him, just leave him alone.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Why in the H*LL would you want to be with someone that hits you? If hes over you already then its probably a good thing.

Answer 3

If he hit you once there will be more people don't just change because they got locked up and if he went to court then they probally made him stay away for so long with no contact and he could think your trying to trap him into talking to you to get him into more trouble stay away move on. You don't need anyone like that they all say they love them my aunt did the same and they got back together and he wound up betting her for almost 15 yrs it just started with a little hit like your saying and here about 2 yrs ago he beat her till she almost died we found out so much stuff once we finally got her out of there and now she's doing alright but she acts like shes spaced out on drugs but she's not its where he has beat her so long. and they had a son and he told us there were days where he could not even go to school he had to stay home at the age of 7 and help him mother cause her ribs or something was broke and she could not go to the dr. he moved out of town and took all contact with her and the family so we had no idea this was going on it was bad thank God she was able to drag herself out of the house that day and was in the yard pouring down rain with her son sitting there tring to flag down cars and just so happened a police car came by and took them away now she' free physical of that man but  mentally I'm not sure if she will ever be right again. Thank about it long and hard before you keep calling him and wanting him back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

ok...you are insane! you think you were wrong, and he hit you!?!  jeezzz...no way in h**l.

Answer 5

Give him another chance ...?  Another chance to hit you again.  Because he will.

I'd say he's dirty about having to go to court, and he's punishing you by ignoring you.  All part of the manipulation.

No doubt you'll go back, and go through the process all over again, until you eventually see that he's never going to change unless he has counselling for his anger management and spousal abuse issues.

I've been there, I know it all so well.  I was married for 14, been divorced for 8 yrs now and my life is 1000 times better without the abuse, manipulation, terror, uncertainty, low self-esteem.  

Do you have children?  Consider their feelings when Mummy's being hurt.  They suffer, trust me.

Good luck.

Answer 6

u did d right thing..i mean a man hasnt got to hit a women for no good reason whatsoever...imagine a husband (who should b in love with his wife)......u stopped him...u did right....believe more in urself......stop texting him...trust me..things could get worse if u go back to him now...

Answer 7

usually when theres domestic violence the one that hit the other and was arrested is under a protective order where they cannot contact the victim...

so hes probably going by the laws of the order and not contacting you..he doesnt want to go to jail again..

just let it go..youre out of an abusive relationship..let him go get the help he needs and you move on with your life..

Answer 8

if he hit you once he will do it over and over, don't you watch life time. move on.

Answer 9

Expect better from yourself and move on. You will be trapped in a spiral relationship forever until you learn why you even feel worried about him. He should have never hit you and you need to know that if you don't figure this out you will never find happiness in your life.

Answer 10

You were giving him mixed messages and he decided to stop playing games. Leave him alone. He hit you which is very wrong and you arrested him which is fine. But if you really wanted to get him help, there were other ways to do that. You expect him to be thrilled that he has to go to court and you were assuming that everything would come up roses. You can't count on that and you shouldn't be with someone who hits you.

Answer 11

Don't give him another chance, it will happen again and get worse each time. One more thought, if you haven't heard from him since he went to court maybe he's in jail?

Answer 12

Ok you got him arrsted for hitting you and you left why you care if he is over you or not. If you loved him that much you should stayed with him and not called the police.

Answer 13

he hits u , I am happy he stopped calling..he musst be like this ***** is crazy

Answer 14

Well, are you hurting because he pounded your face in or is your heart hurting? Okay, for real, if he thought hitting you was a problem HE would have gotten help on his own. Since you had him arrested for hitting you and he had to go to court... 1. he blames you, for HIM hitting you and now he is upset...2. he's locked up. Which he should be. Even if he's not over you, get over him. Once abusive ALWAYS abusive.