Ex partner refusing to pay maintenance for kids?

Question

unless i agree to make changes to our divorce papers. he wants me to allow him to take them overnight..I WILL NOT. he is a raging alcoholic who lives with dope smokers and people who enjoy glassing each other in the face after a few beers. no way will iallow this.now hes telling the kids..'' ill be here for u saturday to take you out '' after i said to him, you dont pay, then you dont see them. what do i do now ?? thanks

Answer 1

Just like paying child support does not guarentee him visitation him not paying it doesn't give you the righ to keep his children from him.

Answer 2

You need to go to a lawyer. He'll be forced to pay. It's the law. Good for not letting them go see him.

Answer 3

get da law involved maybe

Answer 4

The law is the law.



You need to protect the children if you have custody

He needs to prove he is a fit parent to have visitation rights,

Make sure Domestic relations court gives both of you the rights that protect the children,

Answer 5

Go to court!!  Talk to a lawyer about the visitation rights....if you do not have a contract/court order set-up for how you and your ex are going to take care of your kids...YOU MUST GET ONE!  THe court order will outline child support payments and visitation rights.  If he does not follow the court order, you can press charges against him.  Good Luck!

Answer 6

Failure to pay support DOES NOT mean that visitation rights are to be withheld.

IF there is a visitation decree in place, you can be held in contempt of court.

I understand your concern so, you need to file contempt on him for failure to pay. Document everything and ask the court to modify his visits so that they are supervised by the court.

Also, ask the courts to perform random drug tests for your piece of mind.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Take him to court.

It's the law that people have to pay child support.

He doesn't decide whether he pays or not!!

Answer 8

send him to court,or call the police ...the court or child support is gonna call you ,but it is better that you go to children and family and report that he left the house and he doesn't pay so they have the record  

Answer 9

If he won't pay his child support then he shouldn't have visitaion rights especially if he drinks and does drugs

Answer 10

If he comes by drunk call the police, they WILL arrest him.

Answer 11

I don't know what your official papers say but you may be liable if you knew these things were going on and the children got hurt. I wouldn't be able to stomach leaving my children with him unless he got verifiable proof! Take him to court for everything. i.e. child support, visitation, etc.

BTW, what's glassing?

Answer 12

Go directly to the CSA, they will deduct the money from his pay and pass it on to you. You can take away his visitation rights if you want to, but you will have to go to court to stop him permanently seeing them, or arrange them on your own terms.

Answer 13

Well, I think that he shouldn't see him weather he pays or not! Why is it ok for him to see them if he pays for them when you said he is an alcoholic and lives with druggies?? If I were you, he would NEVER see my kids until he was clean and wasn't living where he is. I would put my children's safety before $$.

Answer 14

Anna I'd suggest speaking with either a good lawyer and/or paralegal to find out your rights regarding his visitation.  Any court will always rule in the best interest and safety of the children so you may have to go to family court also to have things spelled out legally.  Best of luck.

Answer 15

This a peculiar situation.

If he is ex, do you have any documentary evidence to prove. Unless you get the court orders annulling your marriage with your husband, you cannot call him ex-husband. Till such time, he is present husband only.

One or the other way, nobody is happy in this world. That is it.

This is life - This is living.

One thing you can do. Lodge a complaint in a nearest Police Station and get their help. I am not in a position to believe the Police too. They are very corrupt and unreliable.

I pray to unseen God to help you.

Answer 16

Take him to court for child support order and custody.

Answer 17

Technically, visitation rights have nothing to do with paying child support. You can't refuse to give him kids if he refuses to pay. He can't refuse to pay if you refuse to give him kids. Unless there is a court order or a signed agreement that he can't take kids over night, you can't legally forbid him to take them. Even if there is a written agreement and a court order, he still can go to court and ask to change the decision. This can go on endlessly, until the kids are of age. If he doesn't know that, then good for you. If he knows, too bad: he always has a right to sue you over custody and visitation. Child custody is never final.

So think very carefully before confronting him. You need a lawer or a child support\custody service, to tell you if you have enough legal grounds for doing that.

Answer 18

let him tell the courts that he's not going to pay.  once you file for child support and it is granted, what other choice does he have?  they can garnish the funds from his paycheck.  the only option for him would be to quit his job, and remain unemployed, only working here and there, or under the table - in other words - he'd have to be off the radar completely.  they'll suspend his driver's license, i mean it gets ugly.

let him set himself up - he worked for it.

*add*  also petition the courts regarding the visitation.  let them know what type of environment he's in and request supervised visitiation.

Answer 19

Keep the kids away from talking to him and changing their mind. Run away from the city, go somewhere else with the kids. That's all you can do. He is the father anyways.

Answer 20

Get a court order to have his wages garnished. If he lives in that type of environment, maybe you should get an order for supervised visitation.