Ex still wants me in his life?

Question

My ex states he does not want to be with me anymore and refuses to work out our problems. He broke up with me. I know I have to move on. He continues to call and message me stating he wants to remain friends and talk everyday and he says he always wants me in his life. I am confused! Please tell me from another point of view what he is thinking!!! He wants me to be friends [not for s*x reasons] but yet doesn't want me to be his girlfriend...Please explain...Also, we were engaged.

Answer 1

Tell him straight out that you don't have time or don't want to remain friends with someone you were in a relationship with. Why should you? He broke up with you.  

Answer 2

Tell him you can't be friends with him.  It's too hard on you, he's either in or not.  You deserve that from a man especially if he is your best friend and fiance.  He has to let go and move on and so do you if you aren't' going to work on the relationship and eventually get married.

Answer 3

I would think he just wants to have contact with you to see what you are doing and who you are seeing. You need to just let him be and not answer his calls. Think about it are you always going to do what he tells you even when you are not together? You are your own person and if you all didn't make it together than keep going life's to short and there are lots of fish in the sea. So I am sure that there is one out there that wants to be more than just friends good luck.

Answer 4

pls leave him, hang up the phones, close him out!  its not fair to you..that he can talk to you and use you and you're there for him..but he is not with you emotionally or being your partner. It is time for you to stand up for your own sake and dump him! He is the one doesnt want to work it out with you but yet he wants to depend on you to be friends and talk and hang? forget it! He can't have it all his ways, it takes two to tango, so please drop him and move on.....AFTER few years or few months, u both can get in touch and remain as friends, but right now, shut him out! He has to learn if he wants to be single or really needs u in his life, then he'll consider his future decision. IT WORKS THAT WAY!  

Answer 5

He is not attracted to you physically but he is emotionally.  He will get a girl he is physically attracted to and keep you to supplement the emotional part of what he is missing w/ his new girl.

Answer 6

He feels guilty. That is what happens to the person who does the breaking up.  

Answer 7

okay well i've had a problem similiar to this before and i think that you should just try and move on with your life because once your intimate with someone for a while its hard to JUST BE FRIENDS. plus, not talking to him will give u a chance to get over it quicker and maybe find someone new. chances are if things didnt work out when u two dated, then why would it be any better being only friends?

Answer 8

Don't take his calls. Change your number. To me this sounds like he still wants to be able to have s*x with you occasionally. Just because he tells you "not for s*x reasons" doesn't mean he is telling you the truth.

He sounds like an idiot and you deserve better!

Answer 9

He doesn't know his a$$ from the whole in the ground. You sound like a very nice girl and shouldn't put up with his games. He's playing you. Don't return his phone calls or messages and he'll get the hint. Move on and find someone who will respect you. Good luck!  

Answer 10

Maybe he knows what he lost.  You have to move forward, because there is no future in the past.