Ex stream anxiety? how can i get to a docs if I'm so nervous ?

Question

hiya i need to see a Doctor b/c I'm very depressed and am very nervous about going out anywhere and find it just about imposable to talk to anyone, i also have physically pain not being to walk much and bad hands, i really need to see a doc but am so nervous about it i just cant do it, if i Even got into the doc appointment he ask es me what wrong i wouldn't be able to talk I'm that bad what can i do to help this thanks

Answer 1

i know it's hard, but you need to just buck up and go. you will feel much better .have a family member or friend take you. good luck.

Answer 2

My sweet heart, you know, as bad as you feel right now, your life does not have to be this way. I know how you feel as there was a time in my life where i did not even go near the front door for three whole years. 18 years on and i feel great.

What you need to do is get your thoughts straight. Realise that what you are scared of most will not happen. You wont faint, you wont lose control, you are not crazy and you are not going crazy. You are human...thats all it is.

Some of us do not handle stress as well as others. We tend to be perfectionists as well which does not make life easier. You need to forget all you have ever believed about yourself, you need to let go of the belief you have that you are different to other "normal" people. YOU ARE NORMAL. It's that simple. You need to give up on TRYING to feel better, you need to surrender to yourself, what will be will be. Call and make the appointment, get up, have a shower, get yourself there all the while letting what will be..be. Look around you and everyone you see if suffering in some way shape or form, no-one is as strong as you think they are and the more you try to be strong the weaker you become, because it is your expectation of yourself and you cant live up to that. It's too high.

Get a photo of yourself when you were young, look at how innocent you were.. it's sad hey, you have to be nice to that person and understanding. You have to be your own best friend.

You are all you have.

I really want you to know that you can kick the *** of your anxiety, you can become light and breezy and travel through life calm and serene. It can be done, no matter how long you have been feeling like you are. It's all in your thoughts, Change them and go easy on yourself, give yourself a break, you need one.

When you feel the fear, let it be, let it wash over you and wash away, it cant have any power if YOU dont give it power.

Picture yourself as happy as you can be, smelling the flowers in the spring and looking back onto your past and thinking...i am glad i went through that, now i have the empathy and patience to help others in thier times of need.

Answer 3

phone your GP and ask for a telephone consultation. From there, you can both work out how best to approach your difficulties.

Good luck and take care!!

Answer 4

i was like you last year, didn't leave the house for 3 months, anxiety disorder.. anywho i understand the stress in thinking about going to the doctor so i suggest you get a home doctor to come to you.. that's what i did, just ring your local doctors and tell them you cant come in and you need the number for the doctor that comes to your house.. good luck, & stay positive. you will get better but you need doctors to help.

Answer 5

speak to local duty social work, one can attend or they'll try get you an 'advocate' or someone to help.  

Answer 6

just had the same prob, im getting help now on meds which have changed my life. ask a friend to go with u just do it it will save your life also u can get a doc to come to your house just call up the doc and ask for an afterhours home appointment

Answer 7

Hi, I totally understand your problem, because I'm in a similar situation myself.  One idea would take a close friend or family member with you to the appointment, and if you freeze up, they will be able to talk for you.  Another idea might be to go ahead and check yourself into a hospital for a short time.  Your anxiety sounds like it's gotten to an extreme level right now, and if you went  to a hospital, they'd be able to regulate the physical aspects of the anxiety with some medication.  Once you get the medication in you, and you clear your head a little bit, you'll be able to at least sit down with a psychologist and come up with a treatment plan.  

If you broke your leg, you wouldn't patch it up yourself and drive yourself to a clinic.  Someone (maybe an ambulance) would take you to the emergency room.  Really, I think the wisest thing would be to get to a hospital, and stay there for 72-hrs.  If you call a crisis line, they have a lot of resources available, and can tell you where to go.

Answer 8

Get a friend or family member to go to the doc with you. Tell them about the appointment & make them promise you they will not let you get out of it!!!

As far as talking to the doc goes... Get a pen & paper & make a list of ALL the things while you are still at home & a bit more relaxed. Then just read the things to the doc when you get there. many people do that, it will not make you look strange, trust me.

Believe me, you can feel better... All you have to do is go and get help. I had been suffering from anxiety and depression for years, since I was in my teens. I finally decided to talk to my doc about it when I was about 28 years old!!! Oh how I wish I had done that sooner. My doc referred me to a therapist & prescribed me some anti-depressants... I was then able to get my life in order and deal with thing with so much less fear & anxiety.

I know u feel like you are in a very dark place, but you just have to go to the doc... no if's and's or but's about it. You will start to feel better once you get help, I PROMISE!!! After you talk to the doc about it, you will feel as if a HUGE burden has been lifted off of your shoulders.

I'm not saying I know exactly what you are going thru, but I've been thru similar things. If you need someone to talk to, you can email me if you like. I promise I will not laugh at you or be mean or think u are strange because I know how u feel !!!  

I hope I helped!!!

Answer 9

Call a local crisis line

Answer 10

Get the book: Cognitive behavioural therapy - for dummies.

You can find it on amazon just write in the search box what I wrote above.

It is a fantastic way of giving yourself therapy which will help you until you can get up enough confidence to see a therapist yourself.  The book has lots of exercises you can do, just like a therapist would give you.  It has really helped me, I am basically cured from an anxiety problem which I had for 12 years.  I was in your situation, I couldn't leave the house, or speak to anyone not even on the phone.

Answer 11

Ask a friend or relative to set up an appointment or get some anxiety medicine if that's possible.

When you're feeling better get some therapy, it'll get better.