Ex wants back, I want him back, sis will talk again - BUT... Please, please read. Honesty is preferred.?

Question

Okay... I would recommend reading all previous posts first, please, before you answer this question, as it could determine what I do, because right now my heart and mind are in totally different places and I can't even begin to think about what is best for me right now.

My ex wants me back. I want him back in my life, which, after everything, is pathetic, but, as he's said, it'll take all the pain away and on top of that, my sister said she'd be my sister and best friend again if I take him back. I still love him desperately, and when I told him that he just smiled.

Thing is, after everything (this is where you need to read everything (or at least the last couple of questions)) can I trust him? Can I trust her? How do I know this isn't some new way of totally humiliating me into doing something that could end up making me more miserable? I'm so confused, but I can't cope with the pain much longer.

Please, I would like some honest answers if people are willing to give.

Answer 1

Jason, Monique is right. I saw in another question where your ex said that you are nothing without him. That is what he would like you to believe in order to get you more dependent on him so he can stay in control.

He has violated your trust and there is every reason to believe that he will do so in the future. I know you are in pain, but right now you need to get away from the people who are causing you pain, not run back to them. You might want to do some research into "trauma bond" because I think that might be what you are experiencing.

You can get through this pain. Turn to people who treat you with respect and caring. You are worth it.

Answer 2

Take me back.  Its that simple.  Want honesty? Listen to me.

Answer 3

I just read all your posts from start to finish. You have had the worst couple days (or hours) ever. First, you have the worst sister that I can imagine. No matter what happens in your relationships your family should be there for you and never take the side of the other person in the relationship. Like someone posted blood is thicker than water ( but in this case not). Your sister needs to work out that issue. Even if she was taking your bf's side, she shouldn't have helped him in his plot to have control over you. SHE TAPED YOU. I don't care how close you are, she is helping him ruin your life. They are trying to make you dependant upon your mate. They are making you feel like c**p and guess what, you are letting them succeed. I understand that you feel alone and these are the people who you love, but do they love you? If they did, they wouldn't want to add to your pain. Look at what you have gone through. I am sure that no one made him come out to the world, so why try to force you too. So instead of getting what he wanted, he made the decision for you (CONTROL). He turned everyone you love against you. Grant it , when your parents found out, they would have still reacted in the same way regardless who told them. But it was YOUR choice to do so. What you need to decide is.... When will you retake control of your life? If your family has decided to befriend your ex, then I am sorry to say, but they have problems themselves. With your ex out of the picture on all sides I am sure that with time they would come around. That doesn't seem like it will happen anytime soon, so turn the tables. Show them that you can pick yourself up and move on. Stop letting people poke holes in your heart and heal yourself. Obviously you have other friends (like the one who took you out). Maybe it is time to get closer to them. Just go to new places until you are strong enough to face your ex. As for school....you are letting them mess up your present, don't let them **** with your future.

Answer 4

Honey, I can tell the guy is a loser just because of the way he answers your questions.

He dosnt treat you right. At all. You deserve someone that will be good to you!

I know it will hurt at first but you need to stay away.

He's disgusting.

Answer 5

You have lost the trust, so even though you may still love the person, the relationship could never be what it was before. Being with someone out of desperation opens you up to getting hurt again and again.

My advice is to move on, and the pain will eventually subside.