Ex wife has bf.i thought it would relieve some pressure from me ,but it hasn't,why?

Question

well after we got divorced.i left but she filed before i could.she constantly nagged me with calls.until my brother who i live with finally told her to stop calling.then one day we talked because i called her because she had me served with papers wanting more c/s .we came to a deal and at the same time she told me she has a bf.i told her it was none of my biz.so i thought that her having a bf would relieve me of the pressure of her hounding me.but it didn't.she still nagged me.well now she is trying to rent a house right down the road from me.like less than a quarter mile away.yet there are plenty of rentals near her so what is her motive.i can imagine if her bf knew about it.I'm sure he doesn't know how she is still trying to keep contact with me.but what do you get from all this?her bf from what i gather owns his own house just bought it.so why not move in with him.which is in the same town,right down the road from her.

Answer 1

She thinks it will make you miserble and want to take her back.

Answer 2

sounds like she is playing games tell her to leave you the h**l alone and for her to move on with her life and let you live yours

Answer 3

What do YOU want?  What will be good for YOU?  Sounds like your ex is still interested in controlling you and drawing you into her world.  Would you like to go there?  

If not, what can you do to mentally, emotionally, and physically say good bye and best wishes for a great new life?

Maybe its time for you to move, too.  

Answer 4

It would appear her motive is to antagonize you.

But look at it this way, you are going to be closer to your kids and you can keep an eye out on them.

Maybe you should just get a separate phone line from your bothers.

Then when she calls, you can screen the call.

If it sounds like a legitimate call ( an emergency with the kids, the kids needing certain items for a school project, etc) then you can call her back.

But if she's just calling to hassle you, then take it to court and they can limit her reasons for calling you.

One of the negatives about her living so close is that she would be talking smack about you to the neighborhood.

And, if she has a hot intimate date with the b/f, she may end up dropping the kids off at your door unexpectedly.

I have to say........you people with your child custody issues really make me so glad I never had them or had to deal with the BS that comes with it.

Answer 5

she still has feelings for u.and probably wants her and cake and eat it to.

Answer 6

.Sounds like the bf may not be all she hoped for. And maybe you're too nice a guy who's being taken advantage of more than ever. Ask her what exactly she wants. And then remind her that you're divorced so she should leave you alone unless it involves the kids.

As happens so often, the parent with custody will have all the time in the world to brainwash the kids against the other parent. They say time heals all wounds. Good luck.

Answer 7

She still wants you.  She wanted to make you jealous by telling you about the boyfriend.  If you want her back, she will probably be willing...if you don't want her back, try to ignore her as much as you can and hopefully she will eventually give up and/or find someone else who she can nag.

Answer 8

she still wants you dude. if you love her and want her back i bet she would go for it. if not don't lead her on AT ALL

Answer 9

If you can afford it, why not move out and move 20+ miles from her.

If she's renting a house, then surely she's locked into the lease for at least a year.

Answer 10

My goodness -- she must be a terrible control freak.

My brother is going through something very similar.  He has been divorced for over 9 years, but his ex still calls him at least 5 times a day, every day, stops by to "visit" and inspect his home supposedly to make sure the kids are taken care of, but always ends up copying any home improvement he makes.  She remarried 90 days after the divorce was final from my brother, and bought a house 3 blocks from him 2 years ago.  To make a long story short, this woman has continued to make my brother's life miserable even after divorce.

His ex is very jealous of him, competes with him with cars, houses, furnishings and still tries to control and manipulate him.  She also guides her husband around by the nose.

Very insecure woman who feels the need to have total control over everyone in her life, including her "friends".

I feel for you.