I've been in a long distance relationship for just about a year now. The girl I'm with is on the other side of the world, and we just visited each other for the first time about a month ago, the visit lasting about a month. I'm certain, without a shred of doubt in my mind, that she is the girl I want to marry, and she feels the same.
The visit was great, truly perfect, but now I'm back, and something just feels... amiss.
We're still as strong as ever, which is a big deal when you're doing the long-distance thing. 2 days ago, I found out that there's a high chance my mom will die in the next six months. I'm still living at home, 17 years old, and being raised by only one parent, this is something I'm really worried about.
It's these times, when things are their darkest, that only she, my fiancee can really help with. I know some of you would probably call into judgment the fact that I'm engaged so young, but that's not my question.
When we talk in the last few days, she's always distracted, or doing something else, or talking to friends. In this time, I really, really need her to help me through this.
I know it's overly possessive, and I don't call her excessively, but the inability to talk to her, in the way we used to before I left, has me in a really dark emotional state. I recognize that this is really irrational, she's with her friends, having fun, and that should make me happy.
It does, but at the same time, I can't help but feel like another friend, instead of her boyfriend. I'm not scared of her leaving me, or us parting; like we say a lot, for better or worse, we're stuck together, ^_^.
What I DO need help with, is a way to cope with these emotions until she gets back. Yes, I'm too young for commitment, all of that, believe me, I hear it every day, but that's a choice I've made. I know this won't break us, but every passing hour that I can't get her help, it's tearing me up inside.
I've tried everything, reading, watching TV, talking to friends, hanging out with friends, I take anti-depressants, and am completely on course with that. This is preventing me from working, sleeping, eating. And again, the worst part of all is that I know it's completely unfounded, she is doing EVERYTHING right, I believe. I just need help in this. Sorry for the long message.
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