Excuses not to go to a party?

Question

Well its my friend's birthday tomorrow and its awfully far. I haven't been talking to her much at all this year and we've kinda... Well, we're so different now and I'm going to be really isolated from the rest of her friends. She invited me like about 3 weeks ago and because I didn't want to make her mad, I said that I'm gonna go. Well not only that, but I don't have a ride or anything [but that probably count as an excuse for her].

Any helps making an excuse that probably won't get her too mad?

I know there's the honesty thing but... That's my last resort.

Answer 1

You could lie and say you have to work or something like that.

But I think you should suck it up and go. It's not nice to say you will go and then you don't. I personally hate it when people don't just tell me the truth. next time just tell her up front that you can't go.

Answer 2

Go buy her a gift and mail it to her with a card. If she calls you just tell her you didn't have a way of getting there.  

Answer 3

Call her up and say" I don't have a ride."" Can you come and pick me up and bring me home?"  

Answer 4

tell her that you and your family were just in a plane crash and that you are now a vegetable.  then tell her that you will be at her next party.  

Answer 5

Don't give a reason that's too vague, or one that's too detailed. Either will give it away as a lie or an excuse.

Food poisoning is a great excuse. Fast onset, highly unpredictable, and only lasts 24-48 hours, so you can be up and running again with apologies in a couple of days.

Not having a ride or source of transportation is another great excuse. If you have a car, breakdowns and/or a car battery dying last minute are fairly understandable reasons for an unscheduled absence.

The truth works too, but it may net you some serious trouble and alienate you from your friend further.

Answer 6

No excuses necessary... and honestly isn't always the best policy, nor necessary... Simply say to her:

"I'm SO sorry that I cannot make it to your party, but something important has suddenly come up, and I am unable to attend."

The person is not owed an explanation, nor do they need one.  This is true for most any "turn downs" of invitations throughout your life.  You don't need to explain that the "important" thing that came up is your desire to spend the day at the spa, or go shopping, or whatever.

Have a polite day.

Answer 7

Try telling her you have a family emergency. That usually works.

Answer 8

Just be honest. I think telling her that you don't have a ride is cool enough. Just make sure that you send her a card or something. You don't need to over worry about it. Just be straight forward.

Friendships come and go. It's the real ones that count. How close are you or rather how close is she to you ask yourself.

Don't worry about it. Life is hard enough