Experienced moms... any advice for us fledglings?

Question

New moms learn so much through trial and error. Sometimes we feel like bad moms because of all the mistakes we have to make in order to learn what is best for our baby. Like how to deal with the stages and frustration. Just when you think you know your baby, he changes everything! How to deal with making mistakes. Uncomfortable feedings and gas. Crying at all hours of the night. How to tell if baby is sick instead of worrying incessantly about every little thing. Right now I'm worried about whooping cough because of that stupid ad. Basically, any age -old, time tested advice would be so helpful.

Answer 1

print these out in the boldest font, and stick them on the fridge, on your car's dashboard, on your mirror, in your purse, by the changing table, everywhere:

Everything is a phase, and this too shall pass.

My child is unique, and will progress at his /her own pace.

There are many advices and  thoughts I can think of, but these 2 kind are a super set. believe me, Everything is a phase. cranky baby, flu season, daycare issues, baby's dad not helping much, potty-training, literally any issue you have to face, gets much more bearable if you remind yourself "This too is a phase, and it shall pass".

Answer 2

you'll make a million mistakes and  that precious baby will  turn out just fine...despite what some may think we are not born knowing how to take care of every issue a baby may have. know the signs of whooping cough and keep him away from sick people ( my son is 5 months and hand sanitizer is still required for anyone touching him)  PATIENCE---know it learn it love it...its the key for any parent. my son is really colicky its hard and he's teething and i wanna quit sometimes  then i look at my 4 year old and 2 year old and realize it gets better...you just have to suck it up and deal with him! thats advice  from my own mom...suck  it up she says lol. you'll always worry...you'll always be afraid thats just being a good mommy. thats love! you'll do great...believe in yourself and trust yourself and your son will too..give him hugs and kisses a million times a day :-)

Answer 3

Take it one day at a time. I know sometimes it seems over whelming and it seems like you have no idea what your doing. Fallow your gut feeling. Hes your son and you know whats best for him..

Answer 4

listen all the time to other parents, grandparents, doctors and your trusted friends. don't take toheart anything you hear that starts with " they have found that such and such MAY be linked to......" when you read the paper and watch the news-that will worry you endlessly , just to find out the study stopped because there wasn't enough "cases" of it. i am a mother of 3 (one stepchild) with one on the way. i am still learning. make sure your pediatrician listens to you and doesn't overtalk your concerns, with a quick diagnosis. if you feel he is wrong, tell him. and if he is a good doctor, he will tell you exactly why he thinks you are wrong. the bad ones are the ones who a:medicate on what YOU said. or b:say "no, it isn't that " and the conversation is over.

switch docs if you feel you have too. i got to the point with my doctor that i trusted him and he trusted me. the little things, poison ivy, pink eye, constipation etc. he would call me back and say , i have called in such and such, try it and call me back tomorrow-

the main thing is listen and ask questions. no question is stupid. i called and asked the hospital hotline if it was ok to apply desitin diaper cream to my daughters yoo-hoo. hows that???? lol

example: my kids are 12,12 & 8. my 8 year old got his first earache ever. i took him to the er after 24 hours only to go home and for my grandma to tell me the same thing the er doctor did-" try a little sweet oil drops" it dries the ear up. $3,000 for a bottle of $2 sweet oil, go figure. the fact that you are asking this questions shows how intelligent you are-keep it up

Answer 5

Knowing if your making a mistake or not is always a constant battle when it comes to kids.  I have 2 boys, with another one on the way and some days I still feel as though I have no clue what I am doing.  Some advice I may have is to pick your battles, when something doesn't feel right it usually isn't, trust your instincts, "Mr. Nobody" is responsible for most mishaps, always take your children's side, and the most important things you can give a child are love and knowledge (both of which can never be taken away or lost).

Answer 6

Just relax and enjoy your baby.  Before ou know it you will be planning his first birthday and you will look back and laugh at your nervousness.

Babies are just small children... let them learn and explore... let them gget dirty... let them make mistakes... let them cry.  They will be just fine.