Exterme behaviour problem in child.?

Question

My friend is a single mother of two boys. Her youngest is 7yo and is having very extreme tantrums. He goes into a rage and seems to not be able to hear anything anyone says.

They are definately not 'normal' tantrums.

He has just started at a new school, although the tantrums started well before the move, on his first day at his new school she was called to come and pick him up. The teachers said they can't have him at the school while he is acting this way. He swears, screams, yells, kicks, punches, throws things and even tried to strangle another child.

My friend has no idea where to go or what to do to help him.

She has taken him to a pediatrician who has recommended hearing tests, although to people who know him it doesn't seem to be the answer.

Has anyone been through anything similar and have any advice on what she can do or where she can get help?

Anything at all would be appreciated because she is really at a loss on how to help her little boy :(

Thanks.

Answer 1

she needs 2 bk a pediatrician b4 the problems get worse when he gets older for ex. he mite get strong enough 2 tear down a door sumthin....tell 2 go bk 2 a dr. asap

Answer 2

It is not normal for a 7-year-old to be having such explosive tantrums.   Your friend needs to get a handle on this situation very quickly, because it will get worse (and more dangerous) when he gets older, and bigger.

The pediatrician could have been right about the hearing issue.  A friend of mine had a child with a moderate hearing loss, who used to throw terrible tantrums.  The child could hear, but not as well as he should.  He was extremely frustrated about "missing" a lot of what was going on around him.   Eventually he was fitted for hearing aids.   He is a different child today - happy, cooperative, and doing well in school.    Your friend might want to try following the pediatrician's advice in this area.

Answer 3

Maybe this kid feels like nobody listens to him or his needs.

Maybe he's feeling left out in activities in school or doesn't have very many close friends. I don't know much about parenting cause i'm only about 7 years from that age but i hope i helped

Answer 4

this has everything to do with your friend's parenting techniques.  consider asking her if she wants your help.  you can suggest counseling and some quality time with her own child.  sometimes, they are just begging for attention and ask for it via negative behavior.

Answer 5

Anytime you are dealing with uncontrolled rage, it is time to see a psychiatrist.  This is obviously a psychological and adjustment problem.  The child needs someone to talk with who has experience with adjustment and rage issues.  And, medication may be needed if a chemical imbalance is to blame.  

I am sorry for your friend and hope she can get him the help he needs.

Peace,

Jenn

Answer 6

I would be taking my child to another paediatrition, a behavioural psychologist and looking at what he was eating and if anything was setting him off in his diet

Answer 7

My friend had the same problem with her kid . so what she did was take him to a therapist and psychiatrist and her psychiatrist said he had anger issues so he went to go see someone for that. and it worked after a couple of months.

Answer 8

A. find a pyschiatrist...doesnt have to be expensive

B.ask him:what made you mad...how would you feel if they did that to you

C.i will give you ____if you dont do that for a mnoth or two

Answer 9

I have one boy who has always been hard to handle, not as extreme as what you describe but still very difficult.

Psychologists never worked for my son because he would never open up and talk with them, the doctor's diagnosed him with ADHD and wanted him on meds. But when we try meds they made him a zombie.

So I grit my teeth and started trying to figure out what punishments got to him the most. Spanking was a total waste, he would just laugh in my face. Time out worked partially for a little while. So I kept trying he had a few favorite toys and favorite activities. So whenever he acted out I would take away his favorite toys and not allow him to do his favorite activites. This was what worked. he wanted his stuff so much that he began to realize he could only have them if he behaved. Little by little I saw him behaving better more often.

My son is now 17 and is a nearly straight A student. I couldn't be more proud of him.

Over the years I did have to change the favorite items as he grew up so just because his match box cars work today doesn't mean they will work forever.

Another thing to help with the temper tantrums is try ignoreing the child. many children do this for attention, if they don't get it then they will stop. Tell her next time he has a temper to walk out of the room or go outside and leave him, when no one is paying attention to him the tantrum is pointless.