Extreme Christianity. How do I lose the fears?

Question

I wanted to love Christ, feel blessed & be the best I could be so that life would feel worth living. However, I have become afraid to be with any man physically because of the guilt handed down re: s*x b4 marriage. I am not happy & a few nice things happen. But I feel so desperately unhappy with my life because I am so single. When a guy wants me I panic because of God. Yet more than anything I want to be in a loving relationship.

I feel like I am being cheated, I see other people having great lives who couldn't care less about God. I don't know how I am supposed to be Ok.

Right now there is a man that I want! Really want but I told him I can't let him touch me. I have a sexual appetite & have ignored it for about 7 years. Christians this is driving me NUTS

Answer 1

WWJD

Answer 2

Dear Christ loving lady,

You really have asked the most difficult question facing not extremist Christian, but God loving Christians. I am not a pure person and what I should tell regarding this issue applies to me too just for the purpose of not being a hypocrite. Please know that all Christians sin whether in adultery, or in any other way. Christ taught us that any breaking of one command would render him guilty of all commands.

I am so careful to answer your question such that I intend so hard to ask you to listen not to my answer, but what Jesus Christ himself revealed to us how we who love him should live our life. Do you know that once you accepted Christ as your savior, you have died of all your sins and you no longer live in your body any more, but Christ himself is who lives in you and if that is true, then you no longer sin but live in holiness all your life. Do you really think that Christ in you has a desire to lust and enjoy a sexual intercourse? If you have Christ in you, you have died of the act of sin, and sin no longer has power or place in your dead body, but you have given a new body the body of righteousness-the body of Christ Himself. Can you imagine yourself after one holy Sunday in the church praising Him who died for you and took all your sins away so that you may have life that is beyond discription. He also gave you a new nature which is like his nature- Divine and Holy- Can you imagine yourself hiding with another boy friend somewhere privately to have fun and lusting one another by purposely practising sexual desires and going for the passion involved, namely for the ecstasy of s*x which disappears immediately after you finish leaving behind so much sorrow and pain!. A few minute of pleasure would thereafter bring upon your head so much tears and sorrow in your kind heart for betraying Jesus. For the truth is that Jesus himself is the groom that you should live your life for.

Paul tells us in! Corinthians about how our world we live in is decaying away and shall be no more be; this world belong to the devil and will completely disolve and be no more. Paul tells us that those who live in this world should live as if they are not of this world; those who have wives to love as if they have no wife to love(There is no s*x in Heaven) as they live in this world. Those who buy things belonging to this world as if they are not owning any thing that belongs to this world; John tells us that he who loves this world makes enmity with God. This is true because we do not belong to the worldly Kingdom, but to the Heavenly kingdom which is ruled by the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords-Jesus Christ Himself.



Please don’t make the Holy Spirit sad in you by committing adultery to have a little joy that would last but for a moment and then all that desired joy had gone away and you have been left alone to weep and shed your tears. In Christ, we have much more Joy and peace and splendor and holiness and all the pleasure of s*x cannot even be compared with the joy and love that Jesus would give to us for being faithful to Him. Even if you can’t live without this desire, even if you have s*x with some one you love, Christ still would forgive you! Because he already has not for good work that you have done, but for the good work that He had done for you on the cross!

God Bless You!

Answer 3

All of us struggle with sexual desire, which is one of the hardest to resist. Satan may be tempting you with this. But don't give in. If you do he wins and you lose. But if you resist him, he will flee from you. (James 4:7) And you will please God.

Keep waiting. If you put your trust and faith in Him you will never be disappointed. Remember God always knows what you need before you ask Him. (Matthew 6:8)

The answer to our prayers may not always be "yes". But the Lord always knows what's best for you. So do your best and commit the rest to God.

He will bring the man He planned for you. Remember Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.

(Proverbs 3:5-6)

God Bless.

P.S. Don't listen to Chanel, for she does not know the consequences that occur afterwards. Don't just do what ever you want, obey God.

Answer 4

driving his too.

Answer 5

hang in there.

pray to God about it.

He will provide you with a man that will respect your beliefs until marriage.

Answer 6

This is tough. I know how hard it is to be single, and wait for the right guy. But I really just want to encourage you to stick it out. Don't settle for anything less than a man who respects you, who loves God, and who is willing to wait, just like you are.

A lot of the "restrictions" God places on us are actually for our good. Waiting until you are married will save you from a lot of heartbreak, and teach you to rely on God, and not some guy.

A couple years ago, I got sick of waiting, and the guy I was with absolutely broke my heart. I became dependent on him, and my relationship with God was basically non-existent... and then the guy cheated on me and broke up with me, leaving me on my own.

God doesn't want us to hurt like that. If I had listened to the holy spirit, urging me to watch out and not give in to this guy, I wouldn't have been hurt by him.

I know it is hard. But trust in God, and be patient. Don't settle for less than what God wants for you!!

Answer 7

pray for a willing heart and when youre willing you can ask God for His spirit.... dont worry...theres always hope....OOO

Answer 8

How old are you???????  If you are  a teen- get real. You won't die from lack of s*x.   Ever hear of masterbation?  

MILLIONS of us girls didn't have s*x before marriage and it it didn't harm a soul.

But tons of girls now have babies that they weren't ready to care for, their hearts broken cause they really thought the "lover" loved them, they have STDs (great wedding present to bring to a marriage, hey?) and no freedom they would have had if they had just waited abit.

And I don't go along with long long engagements.  If meet the right person- have a very short engagement. Not years. that is stupid.

Answer 9

JUST GIVE THOUSTSELF TO THEE. GOD SATISFIES 100%.