!!Extreme drama that's making me feel guilty and awkward when talking to guys! Help please! =( !!?

Question

Well this is a really long story so you might either wanna leave now, or grab a coffee and some cookies! :)

Well, i'm 14 years old and i lost my virginity at 13 years old.

I know i'm stupid for doing so and regret it massively.

Well, i've got a really good friend which i tell everything to. We'll call her A. ( She's 16 years old )

And i've got this other.. hmm, friend i guess. ( Sorta ) She can be B. ( She's 17 years old )

We were in camp when B found out that i lost 'it' to a guy. Someone had my phone and was reading my text messages and came across my ex-boyfriends messages saying how he promise that we won't do it anymore blah blah..

And yeah, it went from there. So B found out and A soon found out because i told her a few days after.

A and B are pretty good friends so they pretty much ganged up on me telling me off and stuff.

Well, i was made to promise a few months ago by B ( With A's support ), that i'll won't date till i'm 18.

They said all this stuff about 'protecting' me.

If i do date before 18, B would tell my parents and i don't want that happening!

Well, everything went on as normal until i was caught hanging out in town with this guy. We were just friends and when i was asked about it, i insisted that we were just friends. So it just turned into a joke and all's fine.

Well, as me and A were pretty good friends, i asked her to cover for me when i wanted to hang out with my ex-boyfriend in town. She agreed. But when she found out that i still had some feelings for him, she went to B and told her about it.

In between all that, A found some dodgy texts on my phone from these guys and told B about it.

So, i got a massive scolding from B. She told be that if she hears something like this again, she'll go to my parents.

Well, now when i talk to guys that i like, i feel really guilty.

I know that they don't want me to get into those situations again but i know that i don't wanna do it again and most definatly won't until i'm married.

What can i do about it? I know that they won't drop the rule.

Is there anyway around this?

Please help..

Thank you.. :)

Answer 1

Next time you want to hangout with a guy, make it sort of like a group thing. So it's not just you and him.

And tell A and B and make sure that's alright.

Answer 2

Well being that your only 14 is why you are being treated this way by both friends A and B.  You shouldn't be so worried to have a boyfriend anyways focus on your schooling and STAY AWAY FROM s*x until you are AT LEAST at the age of consent which is 17 and 18.  

Your friends are protecting you by being stern is all. Just ask yourself is it necessary in your life to be in a relationship? I'd say right now your family, friends, and school are all that should be your focus aside from sports, and other hobbies.  I hope your ex boyfriends isn't 17 because that would make him a pedophile as thats simply sick.

It's a little wrong that your friends A, and B are emotionally black mailing you but it's all for good reason. I would approach them to find a more simple solution than black mailing you emotionally.

Let them read my answer by my saying to them "A and B it's your job to set the example for your 14 year old friend. Don't tell her to do anything that you both wouldn't do yourself.  If your running around having s*x then that would make you both hypocrites because you both are not leading by example".

And that is exactly what I'd say to them to their face if I were you question their integrity.  Also do me a favor and stay safe I'm 23 and I just don't want you to fall victim to UNDERAGE PREGNANCY!

it doesn't matter if protection is being used by one or both parties. Just don't do it until your 17 which is the age I waited to loose my "V-Card".

I really hoped I helped you out the best way possible. All in all though I wish I had 2 good friends like your A and B plain an simple. Be careful and be safe!

Answer 3

Your friends are only looking out for you.