Eye Contact???

Question

Is it okay to feel uncomfortable to look someone in the eyes? I feel really uncomfortable when I make direct eye contact with someone. And if I do actually make eye contact with them I only look them in the eyes for about 2 seconds, then I look away.

I don't want the person I'm talking to to think I'm not interesting in what they are saying... so where should I look?

Answer 1

You are SHY. And it's nothing wrong with this. I have the same situations from time to time.

I would recomend: try speaking to this person FIRST. Then you make a contact and it's difficult to run away with eyes.

I would make myslef stand it and fight the feeling to run away with eyes. BUT don't force yourself to stare at this person all the time! Just try to do it really frequently. And certainly do not over his/her arm. You can look down, or to the left/right but I would be really careful to not to make this person feel igonerd. When you're really shy just look down BUT smile a little to yourself, and that would mean you feel like being really friendly but have some tiny shyness..Good luck!

Answer 2

I never look people in the eyes for some reason, and I have a twin brother and I can't even tell you his eye color. My mom [now dead 4 years]  had blue eyes and the only way I remember is that she used to say she was 5 foot 2 with eyes of blue. My dad is also dead and I have no idea what color his were.

Very weird, but true.