F everyone you meet and the things that happen are there to help you to get to where your fated to be ...?

Question

Then why did I meet this guy? From past experiences whenever I have a strong connection to someone male or female they have changed my life in some way. I have been single for some time now and not really looking for someone but definitely open to it. A few weeks ago I met a great guy in my neighborhood. He was doing research for a work project. He is married with children. AND NO I AM NOT INTO DATING MARRIED MEN. We kind of had this magnetic attraction to one another not even, I can't explain it. We have a lot in common, We spent a few days texting and hung out a time or two. We both, in the back of our head acknowledged the connection yet realized it cant ever go anywhere because he is married. I can't even be friends with him. Its like he was here and now he gone. I am trying to understand why I was to meet this great guy who is, sadly, unavailable yet everything I've ever wanted in a partner ?

Answer 1

Perhaps you met this person to show you that it's possible to find someone you feel so connected with.  Perhaps he was meant as a glimmer of hope for you.

Answer 2

Please don't be offended by what I have to say. From your question I get the feeling you have sent out very positive and conscious sexual signals (perhaps an outright suggestion too) , which he, prudent man that he is, has gracefully rejected. Not because he finds you unattractive (you did "hung out a time or two"), but because he is committed and wants to honour his commitment.

I'm also glad to see you respect that, but your present loneliness ("single for sometime now", how long?) does not let you detach yourself from him completely. I understand your predicament. In this man you see an opportunity of a much longed for fulfilling relationship,  and it will require a lot of mental and emotional strength of you to let go of this guy you find so attractive. But let go of him you must, for you'll be heading for a major disaster if you pursue this relationship further.

I hope I haven't misread you, or offended you. I mean well.

WT