FMIL told me the first time she met me that I was not good enough for her son and then asked her son if he really wanted to marry me. Since then, I have kept my distance. I don't call her, I let my fiance relay all wedding plans to her. I have told my family what she said and they can't stand her either. I did not take her wedding dress shopping and I am not showing her my dress-I told her that wedding dress shopping was a mother daughter thing and that I am saving the gown so everyone can see it on the big day when I come down the aisle. When my MOH and mother and sisters planned my wedding shower, FMIL asked to help, but due to how nasty FMIL has been in the past, they told her they had it covered. Just a few days ago, my mother came over with my hope chest. In our family, it is tradition that when a girl is born, a hope chest is started and packed with the things she will need for married life. FMIL asked if she could be there when my mom and I opened the hope chest (I have never seen what is in it) and I politely told her no, that I just wanted to do that with my mom. And who can blame me after how FMIL has treated me? Why would I want to share special prewedding moments with her when I have a mom, sisters and girlfriends for that? Plus, my deceased grandmother put a letter and other items in there for me. There is no way I want FMIL to see those precious things or have her pawing through my hope chest. I don't understand why she doesn't get that I have the right to and I only want to do prewedding things with my loved ones. She has daughters-she will have her chance with them.
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