FOR THE GUYS: Would you just forget about me and turn your back as easy?

Question

Let's say we have been hanging out for almost 4 months now and there hasn't been problems between us because it seems that we hit it off too well. You loved laughing with me and making fun of me, we go to places together, watch movies, cook food together, dine out once a week and spend most of our weekends together and of course I really enjoyed your company too. Plus, my roommate saw how totally head over heels you are for me, and of course you know how I am too with you. Then suddenly, an unavoidable circumstance (really serious!---like a surgery) is about to happen to you and you saw how affected I was and instead of talking to me, you refused and pushed me away. You know that I love you but this scares/freaks you out plus, you got this huge issue you have to face that you told me way back. I also told you that whatever happens, I will still be around for you.

Would just forget about me right away and turn your back as easy and walk away? Why do guys do this to the girl they like?

Answer 1

well if i were the guy i would never forget a friend like that

Answer 2

He hasn't forgotten about you, he just wants to avoid your being in pain. He thinks that maybe after the surgery he will be different enough for you to leave him for somebody else leaving him feeling stranded and alone. The reason he has seemed to "leave" you is that he doesn't want you to get hurt or hurt him. You need to talk to him about this and see what he says. Just try to get him to open up a little bit and see what happens. Best of luck to ya. :)

Answer 3

maybe he just wants some SPACE, JEEZ LEAVE HIM ALONE

Answer 4

Breaking the guy code prorbably

Guys are supposed to be strong. It sounds like this is pretty serious...To someone you love its a HUUGE risk to show them you can be afraid, your confidence shredded. We think we have to maintain this 'guy' attitude. To let them see you fall apart, we can't survive the loss of what makes a guy and guy if you reject us at this point. So better to push you away, see we are strong! We can do it on our own...

I know at least a few guys that have admited to friends, we really wish you could be there....just not brave enough to appear that weak.  

Answer 5

He still cares for you just as much as before.

Right now, he is going through a traumatic time in his life and needs to deal with this in his own way, perhaps with his close family and doctors.

Just let a little time pass, send him sweet cards and phone him occasionally.

When he is feeling better and less stressed, he will still be the guy you love and who still loves you.

He doesn't want you to see him the way he is right now.

He feels that he is vulnerable and is falling apart.

But don't worry. He still cares for you and will be back in your life if you can wait a while for him.

And keep reassuring him that you still care.