FOUR YEAR RUNS THE HOUSE (HELP)

Question

I have a four year old girl she is my only one. but the house gets run by her I've tryed everything time-outs whipings everthing nothing is working she wont to what i ask and she is getting me and her dad at each outher like she wonts us to fight she acts like she wonts us apart we do things with her one on one and togather but we also need some time just to sit and wacth tv in are living room as well HELP!

Answer 1

Get Nanny Jo.

Answer 2

put her up for adoption..

Buy a baseball bat..

Give her to the mccan family to look after...

Answer 3

You have to be more firm with her. No four year old runs a house unless you let them. You need to be consistent and specific in your rules. Make a house rule chart that you can put on display for her. Let her know that there are certain behaviors that are appropriate and certain that are not. When she mishaves you remind her of the house rules. For example you should state "Remeber the house rule we do not jump on the bed". If she does not follow your direction then there are immediate consequences. Time outs only work if you place them in a non exciting area of the house. I place my son in the hallway and he looks at the wall. Never let her leave her time out spot and make sure she stays for at least five minutes. When time out is over remind her why she was put in time out. Do this same process over and over again. It doesn't matter if you are at your house or someone elses. Following through is the most important step. She is old enough now to understand that she did not follow house rules and therefore she does not play outside. So you can have more consequences besides time outs as well. Reward her for her good behavior.

Also never let her see you upset. Remain calm and in control. You can not let her know that she makes you and your husband argue.

Rountines are also necessary so that she knows what to expect. You should have a bedtime ritual and a set bedtime. She should either go to sleep or stay quietly in her bed.

Remember to always give very simple and specific directions. Don't say clean your room but say put your dolls in the pink toy box. Let her finish that task and tell her good job and then say put your kitchen items in the purple basket. Kids function better with very specific directions instead of general requests.

Answer 4

please e-mail me.  i have similar problems with my child  

Answer 5

Does your four-year-old have a favorite toy or item? Sometimes, with our son, who is the same age, if he has been bad or acts out, we take away his favorite toy for a short period of time. This method really gets his attention and his behavior improves immediately. Also, if he is about to do something he knows is wrong, he remembers what the consequence will be, and he quickly changes his tune. Thankfully, we don't have to do this often.