FROM EXPERIENCE Only please, Is the grass really greener?

Question

Have you ever been in a relationship where you thought the "grass was greener" on the other side? Did you go into that grass? What happened and how's everything now?

Answer 1

I left a girlfriend of several years for my current wife.  The grass was absolutely greener.

To be fair however, when I was in that relationship it was really crazy and dramatic, the whole craziness of it all was wearing thin and I did not realistically see any future even though she was planning marriage and our whole future together.

Sometimes you just need a little encouragement to get on with your life and move into greener pastures.  In my particular case I was stagnating and "settling" with mediocrity.  

Thank god my wife now was that assertive and aggressive woman I met that knew what she wanted and it just happened to be me.

She has truly been my inspiration and soul mate.  I got insanely lucky with my story of love and finding "the one" because I never believed in it.  But the first date I knew she was it.

2 weeks later she moved in and we were engaged and I had dumped the old girlfriend.  As for the affair we were having I never really considered it cheating as I was not sleeping with both the ex and my new found woman at the same time.  It was destiny if you will.

My point here...

Sometimes the grass looks greener because your current situation is not so great.  That's why we stray looking for greener pastures.   Basically I believe it's just your intuition telling you subconsciously that you settled for something you're not happy with...  the grass may not even be greener when you jump that fence but it definitely is a good encouraging motivator to get you off your a** and do something different for a change right?

Take a chance... what have you go to lose?  Misery?

Worse case scenario you're more miserable on the greener looking pasture then you were... in which case you weren't all that miserable to begin with now were you.

Answer 2

yes i did no it wasn't greener im still waiting its been 4 years

Answer 3

The grass is only greener on the other side for some, very few, fortunate folks out there!   I repeat!  Only for a few very lucky people.  This does not apply to everyone! In other words, some guys or girls can easily get want they want in life in general and some guys or girls no matter how hard they try, may never get what they want.  Thats part of life.  

Answer 4

The grass was def greener.  I am now happy and to me thats the only thing thats important

Answer 5

well i got divorced. its been 8 years and although "He" hasn't appeared yet, the grass is still so much greener on my own....

Answer 6

It really depends on what you think makes it greener.

Some people try to escape their problems and think that being with someone new will help them start fresh.

The truth is your problems follow you.

If you can truly change and take responsibilty for your actions then its a better chance for the grass staying greener.

Good luck.  (Been there done that)

Answer 7

I have a story about my fiance's ex that I will share with you. She was married to my fiance' for less than a year and they have a son together. He is an AMAZING person and father and to this day I still don't know what she was thinking. She had it absolutely made! He took care of her and their son and would have done anything in the world for her. Needless to say she thought the "grass was greener" and decided that she wanted a divorce after less than a year of marriage. So they got divorced and she started dating someone else right away and my fiance' was devastated and held on to hope of getting back together with her for a very long time. Fast forward a few years and him and I are set-up by mutual friends, we become friends, then begin to date and the rest is history. She on the other hand broke up with her rebound guy, dated a few other guys and then tried to get my fiance back after him and I we're together for a while. Obviously that wasn't going to happen since him and I are very happy together and she on the other hand is now alone and miserable because she has no one. She thought the grass was greener but of course she found out the hard way that it doesn't necessarily always work out to be true.

My fiance' and I have been dating now for 5 years and are getting married in a few weeks. She is still in the picture because she is the mother of his son and they have joint custody. And throughout the years that we have been together, I know for a fact that she wishes she could go back and make a different choice and still be with him. But her mistake was the best thing she could have done because now I've found my future husband and I know a good thing when I see it and he's definitely a keeper. Her and I are actually "friendly" since she is part of our family in a way and she respects me and I respect her. We decided that since we're both going to be in the picture we might as well make the best of it and so far it's worked out well. But I still think she was a fool to let a good man get away. One woman's trash is another woman's treasure So true!