Facebook/myspace ruining life

Question

19 yr old guy.... I think ive become to attached to myspace and now facebook. It seems life ive been making decisions due to what my friends are doing. Biggest example: the college im going to. And now, I keep checking facebook to see what friends are doing. (Even the ones i dont talk to anymore) and it changes my mood. If there having fun and im just hanging out at home(living at home.. another stupid decision) i would say i get sad or jealous.

ok... dont just answer saying "just stop" or something stupid because if i would i could. Anyone have any good ways to avoid this?

Answer 1

I was like that with MySpace. When people would update their status to things like "Rebecca and Emily are having a blast at the mall" I would get jealous and upset because I wasn't having as much fun as they were.

I deleted my account and I have grown completely apart from it. Friends wanted me to make another one, so I did, and deleted it again because from not having one I became so disgusted of it.

Pick up a new hobby to fill the MySpace/Facebook space. Start focusing on your school work and things should be just fine. When your college classes start, you'll most likely find that you'll be too busy to even consider MySpace/Facebook.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Step away from Facebook/Myspace and figure out what YOU want from life. What do YOU want to do?

Then go out and do it.

You'll feel more accomplished/fulfilled. Less of your time will be spent gazing jealously of others over the net. And perhaps someone will be evnvying you for...

(insert goal or idea here) Going to Times Square for New Year's Eve for example.

P.S. I can relate to you, and that's what I did to help solve it.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I get really sad and depressed from being on myspace and facebook too long. You can see what people are saying about one another if they aren't careful.

The way I stop feeling bad is by doing something I like. Reading, talking to my friends [in person or on the phone], going out, being alone. Or telling someone about it.

So I would do something you like to do. Or watch a movie. Invite some friends over, even take pictures and post them on facebook/ myspace.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Find something else to do, distract yourself away from facebook. what other people are doing doesnt concern you just be yourself if you are a person who hangs out at home doesnt mean that you cant have fun besides their are many things for you to do at home like watch tv bake a cake do DIY read a book play with your siblings etc or you could exercise and build up your muscles go run in preparation for next year physical test.

OR i could introduce you to a whole new world of manga, romance thriller mysteries kind of books, korean chinese and japanese drama shows anime etc.... is there something else that spark your interest other than going on facebook and my sapce???

Answer 5

I was like that too. At first I wanted to delete my account but i thought that it might just make me feel more lonely cause i have alot of high school friends on my account that i wouldn't want to lose in touch with

the best thing to do is dont spend too much time on it, dont keep on checking other people's accounts cause that will just make you feel worse, and it also means you got nothing better to do. I'd say find something better to do and keep yourself occupied  

Answer 6

The easy and simple solution would be to delete both of your accounts. Get out more. They are having fun and you aren't because they aren't prowling their accounts.  

Answer 7

Don't get sad or jealous, you are grown up now. You have to live for you, and I know it is hard but you got to try, and do whats best for you and finish school and get your degree. You can't let things like that bother you. It you let things like that bother you, then you are living for you friends and not yourself, there will be plenty of time for you to hang with your friends, just try to stay focus, and try to do things to keep your mind off of it. Unplug your computer pack it-up. Go to the gym, play sports, etc.

Answer 8

Hi,

like any other problem or issue in our lives we simply have to decide that enough is enough and use our will to make the changes necessary to help us live better.  when you get the urge to log on, resist it.  do something else.  research something, like, why exactly does swimming not really allow for weight loss?  get lost in youtube for a while, or sports stats - even off-season stuff.  research activities going on in your town that you might be interested in checking out.  find new games to play.  

or, get away from the computer and call a friend, go hang out.  stop living by comparison, make your own life.

you know they make up half the stuff they post anyway.

you just need to decide that you don't want to keep doing it, know all the reasons that you don't want to do it, and then find other things to do to avoid doing it - using your will power and the power of distraction.

it's like any other addiction or obsession, you need to recognize there's a problem and make a game plan.  then, follow through.  no one else can make you stop, you have to make the decision and stop for yourself, because you WANT to.

best wishes

Answer 9

just get more fresh air. thats what i have to do sometimes.