Facts about adoption?

Question

My husband and I are considering adoption. We've tried to have our own but we're not having any luck....What are the procedures to adopting a child and what exactly do they look at/for in foster parents?

Answer 1

Please check the website www.informedadoptions.com

There is alot of really good information about adoption that can help answer your questions.

They also have a forum with very knowledgable people.

Answer 2

Just look up the internet. Google child adoption and tons of adoption websites will surface. There's bound to be some information out there.

I dunno what they look at exactly, but i assume they will look at family situations, income, etc, etc. That's what they call home study, I think....

Answer 3

they ask for a lot, they even make you pay them.

i want to adopt, because i think it's selfish of me to have MORE kids when so many don't even have a mother.

when i saw juno, i wish like..i wish it was that easy to just adopt another woman's baby. maybe it is? i have no idea.

Answer 4

My wife and I are in the down-hill stretch of adoping a little girl.   Its not easy, but you can do it.  It will end up costing us around 20,000.  The good news is after you have complete the process the next year you can get a tax rebate of up too amost 11,000.   A lot is going to depend on the state you live in.  We live in VA.  Everything is checked out.  You credit, your health, your income, your backgound.  Everything.  But I can assure you, it is worth it.   To give a child a home and be mom and dad, well, its worth it.

Answer 5

One important thing is how old you and your husband are because there are age restrictions for each country exept I guess Guatemala where my parents and I adopted my sister when my mom was 51 and Dad 48. China I think restricts anyone older than 45 but I am not sure. Age is important if you adopt internationally which is a good idea. If you adopt nationaly then look for a adoption agency. There you will start the process, next application process, etc, you have to be certified fosterparents which means you have to perfom a homestudy, that means basically childproofing your house and other details. After that, you basically just wait for the right baby, hope I gave you a good understanding, good luck!

Answer 6

Adoption and the regulation of foster parents is a matter of state law.  Most states have similar adoption laws  but none are exactly the same. Thats why lawyers get the big bucks.  Your state child welfare or child protection agency usually has to approve  foster parents. Contact them for  info about becoming a foster parent.

Answer 7

PLEASE do not rely upon just the Yahoo Answers community for your answers.  Please do some research on your own.  Any ethical and reputable agency/attorney will allow you to speak to them and ask questions free of charge.   HOWEVER, you shouldn't rely on just one person, agency, or attorney, and you shouldn't only seek out the people that are pro adoption.  These people all want you to adopt, so they are going to tell you the "rainbows and butterflies" version of adoption.  

The truth is, adoption is a tough experience, and not everyone is able to handle it.  It is not cheap.  If someone gives you a cost, add about $5000 to that number.  

You should also try to find someone that has an opinion that may be considered anti-adoption.  Weigh their statements against the pro-adoption statements, and then do some research.  People on both sides of the issue are going to tell you things that aren't completely true.  After you meet with one side, develop questions for the other side.  There is nothing that prevents you from going back with more questions later.

Answer 8

The procedures differ for each state, agency, situation.  Start by educating yourself on what kind of adoption you are looking for.  (And don't let anyone make you feel that one size fits all and is better than any other.  This is your family and your decision.)  Infant, older child, private, semi-open, open, etc.  Then go looking for the right people to help facilitate your adoption.  Watch out for those who just don't "feel" right, seem to be selling a baby, or aren't looking for the right fit for everyone.

Do some honest soul searching.  You will be asked why you want to adopt, what are your expectations, and questions about your relationship and family.  Talk to adult adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents.  Learn about adoption and the adoption triad.

One thing that was very hard for me was writing a letter to a prospective birth mother.  I worked on this for a long time, and by editing and really being honest with myself, I found that this was the outlet to how I was feeling.  

Be prepared for some more emotional ups and downs, it's similar to TTC, but seems to go on forever.

Be honest with yourself and the case workers.  They aren't looking for you to be perfect, just wanting to make sure that you are prepared.

Enjoy the process.  It is a journey, and you will be blessed with a new addition to your family.  Good luck!