Facts about child molesters. Allow strangers babysit? What should the penalty be? Reaction?

Question

1 out of every 3 to 4 girls by 18

1 out of every 6 boys by 18

90% of victoms know the person

87% are male

"Identification of child sexual molesters has been attempted for at least half a century without success. This is due, in part, to the heterogeneity of child molesters. Child sexual molesters were studied in three ways. First, a discriminant function analysis was conducted to evaluate how well the MMPI-2 would distinguish child molesters from controls. Hit rates of 81% and 88% were found for clinical scales alone and the clinical and supplemental scales, respectively. Second, a cluster analysis of MMPI-2 data identified four groups that resembled clusters found previously with the MMPI. Third, when followed in treatment, all subgroups achieved significant progress ratings and no significant difference in treatment progress was found between clusters."

What do you think?

Should we now leave kids with strangers?

90% - 95% of child mo goes unreported.

Answer 1

If i had children, I wouldn't leave them with strangers. However, I've read that between 80-90% of the time that someone is sexually abused, the victim knows their abuser, so it's not entirely a stranger-danger thing either.

Answer 2

i would never leave my kids with strangers

Answer 3

Yes, we should leave them with strangers and remove every single child from their parents. As you said 90% of the victims know the person, meaning 90% of all abuse happens in the family. Right now about 700000 cases are being reported, and if you are right it`s only 5% of all abuse, bc 95% of child mo goes unreported. It means that 700000 times 20= 14000000 children are being sexually abused in the US. Right? It again means that 12600000 are being abused in the family ( and from other ppl they know ). So I don`t think that we should leave the children with their parents, it would be safer to leave them with strangers.

It sounds like you are advocating for an increase in the already unhealthy paranoia surrounding this issue.

Answer 4

Child molestation is scarry...it enrages me...it causes me to speak from the flesh and not care about what Jesus would do or say!  My dear friend was molested by her stepdad from the time he married her mother (she was age 8) until she started her period at the age of 13 and he was too afraid she'd get pregnant.  Even after stopping molesting her, per say, he'd peek at her through the keyhole in her bedroom or the bathroom.  She got married a few days after she graduated, just to leave home.  She never told her mother.

I'd known her all my life.  We grew up together.  Our mothers grew up together.  Yet it was a secret that she never shared with anyone until I spent the night with her one night, and he walked through her bedroom as we were halfnaked, dressing for church.  It FREAKED ME OUT!  My daddy had NEVER even been in my bedroom my entire life, let alone walking through while 3 girls are dressing!!!!  I immediately told my mother, who was molested by uncles and cousins as a child, and raped as a young lady.  My mother hit the ceiling!  She went to my friend's mother and told her what had happened.  She acted as if it was an accident.  My friend begged my mother not to tell.  Now, she's 38 years old and she still hasn't told anyone but me...

How awful of this man to make her carry this burden all her life.  I couldn't do it.  I'd like to see child molesters hung by their balls around the courthouse...let them almost die...let them down...let them think they're going to live...then hang them up again until it finally kills them!  Let them suffer a long, agonizing death...but it won't even halfway resemble the h**l they put those innocent kids through.  I don't know what you'd hang women by, but I'm sure we could come up with something!!!!  I just don't get it...I don't ever want to have my kids defiled by someone that should protect them, and I honestly think I'd spend the rest of my life in the pen because I'd kill anyone who touched my boys!  Heaven help em, 'cause they'd have a ticket straight to h**l without passing go!

Our children are precious.  Such blessings from the Lord above.  How people can hurt them is beyond me.  My brother's ex was raped and molested by her own grandfather.  Her mother never pressed charges.  She is so screwed in the head that it's pathetic!!  Parents that don't do anything about it should be hung right beside the molester!!!!  This girl has more mental problems than the law should allow...she will NEVER have a decent relationship with men (in fact, I think she's a L*****n now)...she's lost parental rights to her kids...and her grandfather got off scott free.  In fact, her grandmother finally divorced him (although not because he was molesting their grandkids!) and he remarried...he's still molesting, just a new set of grandkids!

I don't leave my kids with ANYBODY!  I'm very open with them.  I make sure they know they can tell me when they feel uncomfortable around anyone, male or female, and that I will handle it accordingly.  I tell them I don't care how they threaten to hurt you or your loved ones, I don't care if it's Mama, Daddy, Mamow, Papow, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends...you come to me!  My mother grew up in the 50s and was raised by parents that thought it was the girl's fault if she was raped or molested, so when she went to her parents, she was beat for being molested!  She learned to not say a word and try to protect her sister who was a 'vegetable' from Cerebral Palsy...they even molested her!!  Hang em up by their balls!  Hang Mama and Daddy right there beside em!

My grandparents changed of course, and were the most preciously loving grandparents in the world...but...the fact remains that they didn't protect my mother.  For that, I have had to pray for myself repeatedly.  Especially where my grandmother is concerned, because my mother would go to her and she'd change the story around to my papow to make it seem as though my mother 'asked for it,' and he'd beat heaven and h**l out of my mother.  It's very hard for me not to hate that woman.  In fact, I'll never look at her as a grandmother again.  Papow didn't get the facts...he got lies...my mother got h**l on earth...and those uncles and cousins got off with ruining her life!

I think I'd best go to my prayer closet, because the flesh is creeping in and God will have to deal with my heart.  God bless you, Darlin'.