Family Feud at funeral?

Question

My husband's grandpa died a couple of days ago. We have been at their house giving support and all that... then I find out that they have included pictures in the funeral of my husband's brother's kids, but not our kids. They have never put up the pics of our kids that we gave them and now they are excluding them from the photos that will be on display at the funeral.

I was very upset, and we decided together that we would go home because I was very upset and the kids were tired and fussy. On our way to leave people started talking to us about why we were leacving and I just blurted out that I was upset over the fact that there are no pictures of my kids anywhere. My husband's aunt told me I was rude and I told her that I didn't care what she thought. Then she said "well, the truck's that way honey". I turned around and left. Then his uncle flipped me off.

Question is this: I know that I should have tried to just shut up and not say a thing about it (but it was my kids and I am tired of them being ignored)... but is it okay that they excluded my kids? Did I have the right to be upset at all? Or am I just a total witch?

Answer 1

You were correct in being upset. I would have gotten pictures of my kids and have my husband put them up. It was insensitive of them, but at the same time it was your husbands grandfather and as such he should have grabbed the bull by the horns. He should have been as pissed as you were. You are not a total witch at all, dont expect to get invited to functions anytime soon. I would not go anyways but heads up. Good mommy, I would stand up for my two little twinkies any time.  

Answer 2

You totally have the right, that is mean and nasty of them to do that, sounds like someone in that family doesnt like YOU and there fore are taking it out on your kids...shame on them!!! sounds actually alot like my family...I hate to say, but thats something they would do...just ignore everyone and see how they like that...trust me they will come back to you and probably apologize.

Answer 3

how you felt and what you wanted is irrelevant.

its your husbands family mamber that died.

it is your husbands place and responsibility to stand up to his family to defend his kids. if he chose not to do that then your issue is with him not his family.