Family Party Issue, what's your opinion

Question

Ok, My cousin and I are both going to be freshman in college.

When I had my graduation party, my parents made me share it with him at a big restaurant they wouldn't let me bring 1 riend with me. My Dad payed the entire bill and he got to bring friends.

Now I get an invitation in the mail that my uncle is having a huge going away party for my cousin. I'm not sure if I really want to go because I'm leaving earlier than him and I know my parents wont let me see my family before or after that, so I think that party should be half mine.

Why should he get all of the attention when I'm leaving too?

Is this a natural reaction or am I just over thinking this?

My cousin is a drug addict, heavy smoker, qualifies as an alcoholic, drinks and drivesand has an arrest record and he gets praised because he's going to school 1 state over.

I'm going to a university in our state, never touched alcohol or smokes but none of my family except for mom and dad approve, because I'm a music major. And on top of all this, I'm autistic.

I'm really upset and debating if i go to this party or not.

What's your view?

Answer 1

I think your cousin needs to grow up . You sound like you already have. Your mom and dad were very nice to have him be a part of your party . I really feel his parents should include you to be a part of his . Even if they don't I think you should show them you are a better person , just go and have fun . After all it sounds like you will be the only one that makes it to graduation day . (considering his habits) A day you can celebrate with out him .

Answer 2

Please don't dwell on the small picture about a darn party.In a few years that stuff won't be important.Now,that's not an opinion,that's a fact.Another fact you should learn to is...Life will get harder and harder,so grow up.

Answer 3

It doesn't seem fair.

What should you do? Well, you have options...

Put everyone on a guilt trip, or not go, or once again,

be the better person.  Go to the party and shake his hand.  

You're right, they haven't given you the respect you deserve.

Answer 4

don't be petty, take the high road & let it go!!!!

if you harbor resentment you are letting your cousin live rent free in your brain, poisoning your own spirit, & adding further damage to what has already been done.

use the whole thing as a learning experience & try to do better than your parents & uncle did.

as for your cousin's flaws (dope etc.) that is a good reason to keep him in your prayers.