Family is giving me a negative outlook on life??

Question

My dad is always whining about how life's about to get tougher for all of us (financial wise).

And my grandma (the person I live with and who takes care of me) is always telling me negative things about having a boyfriend and about getting married. I finally fell in love with a guy (after having my heart broken by my first boyfrnd) and here she comes along telling me that everything seems so wonderful when you're in love but that things always change afterwards. She started telling me that when you get married or start living with a guy, he'll be expecting and demanding that you cook for him, clean for him,always look nice for him etc.

What am I suppose to do when they fill my head with all these negative thoughts??? (I'm only 19 and their already making me worry about these things)

Answer 1

They want whats best for you. Just feel your way through experience and do not feed into their negativity

Answer 2

I come from a family with a lot of divorces and bad relationships. People were giving me negative advice from every corner. Telling me not to get married. And yes, I was kinda suspicious because I have had a few bad relationship. Now however, I will be celebrating my 1 year wedding anniversary in less then a month, and I couldn't be happier. Because of my disability, I draw a check from the government and knew I would lose it if I married. My Grandma begged me not to marry, but I did. Yes I lost my check, but am now receiving something else from the government for finances. So you never know what your decisions will become of. If you're happy with this man, then try to focus on that and not what everyone else is telling you. Especially if they all have a negative history.

Answer 3

write about it. keep a journal that only you know where it is. i know this sounds childish. but your family is the way they are and you cant change that. but you can tell your grandmother that times have changed. girls get their hair cut short and have jobs and arent just staying home and taking care of the house. women are just as strong and respected as men these days. tell her that and walk away. it will sink in. and hopefully she wont be trying to fill your head with nonsense. but be careful ive been in love and it can bring 3 times more pain than the pleasure it brings(im not speaking of physical pleasure cause thats not at all what love is about)  

Answer 4

im sure they want you the best ,but you need to  be educated and study and getting wise in life and getting to know your bf better and spend more time,,,,,, with them  

,then  get married etc.  its not that easy  to start sharing home and bed with man who u dont have enuf knowledge about, it wont be a long term relationship    , men who want women for work  and stuff are not men they are ,,,

Answer 5

Move out and get your own place. Then you can surround yourself with positive people.

Answer 6

That's a downer. Your grandmother just wants you to be warned as she is worried you don't understand what life is really like. Your father is probably telling you the truth about finances so that you will be accepting when he cannot buy you things. So they are both telling you the truth because they love you. So try to get past the negativity in the comments and enjoy each day. When you are in love like you are enjoy it. but just be sure you know someone for 3 years before you get married and always use at least 2 methods of birth control. When you are ten years older you will be a much different person than you are now so realize that you are young yet and there is no rush to enter into a serious relationship