Family issue !! Is it normal ??

Question

I'm an Asian girl with a lot of family member. My grandma from my dad side has like about 10 kids (thats how its like back in the old days) so i pretty much has a lot of aunts and uncles and cousins. Well my dad is the oldest son, some of my family member live in Vietnam and some live in US, Canada & France. Well anyway Some Aunts and Uncles are rich, some are poor and some are in the middle. But everyday either the poor try to be all kiss up to the rich to get their money. Or if who is richer then who. And like they always take side or alway have rumor or talk **** behind each other's back. And like this aunt is enemies with my other uncle's wife.

(So pretty much some this people hate this people)

But we're suppose to be a family.

Like on holiday, we don't even get together to enjoy dinner or anything because we are so caught up on gossips around us. And i'm only 13 so i pretty much can't do anything. If they all live in one country then me and my cousins and try to get them all together but they live in different Country. I've seen other family's getting together and having fun and when i look at mine its just one BIG MESS.

So is this normal at all ?

Answer 1

some familys are close, some cant stand eachother. not every one has the perfect family. no one has a perfect family.there is always some type of of competition or fighting. we cant decide who our family is or how they act. the only thing we can decide is how we act, how we turn out to be. it sounds like your family may never get along, but you shouldnt let that get you down. dont let this get in the way of your dreams and goals.

Answer 2

Haha yeah that's normal. Mine's a little like that too.  

Answer 3

well i don't know if its normal but i have simular problems with my family. im 14 now, the rest of my family hate my mum because she drinks a lot and takes drugs, my mum can never go on holidays with my family because they don't want her around, ive had a lot of stress with school, and family situations that ive ran away a lot and i recently got taken away from her and ill be back with her in 3 months. also ive been taken away from her for 4 and a half years witch was four months ago. there are so many people that have you kind of issues and far worse than yours. try talking to a couceller or a friend if you need help with it. i know how you feel because ive been there before

Answer 4

Unfortunately money can mess up many a relationship.

At least you can see the situation a little more clearly than the rest of your family

Answer 5

I would imagine that many families go through this, Part of moving to different states or in your case countries is the separation. For instance, we moved from new york years ago, and after that I hardly ever got to see my family which really made this worse for me as an adult. Now Even though I could I don't go to see them because I'm so used to just not doing it because of the distance. A lot of American families go through this because of the fact that immigrants generally move her for the "american dream" and a better life.  

Answer 6

Its pretty commom. My aunt and her husband are always trying leech off our hard earned money. My relatives havn't been together for almost a decade now.

Answer 7

I think most families have a few things they're a little dysfunctional about.  They may take pains not to let everyone see their problems though.  Eg. my family has always gotten together and had fun, but every now and then my aunts and uncles and parents and grandparents have some kind of drama about something that I consider pretty trivial.  But if you saw some of us out at the lake for a picnic, or if you saw us out shopping, nobody would be fighting.  If not everybody can get along at once, I guess there's always visiting with them one or 2 at a time.

Answer 8

Mines is the same. Its normal.

Answer 9

unforteunetly this is very normal evry one has problems like these there is not much you can do till your older then i would olan a family reunion send out invites and hope for the best good luck

Answer 10

Family is nothing but that everyone shares the same blood. Just because they are family does not mean they will help each other out.

Family is just like a small society, people will act at their best interest.

Take people down, so they can feel superior.

Suck up to people who they believe they can get something out of those people.

If you have no value to them, they just treat you like dirt.

Answer 11

Aw, I'm sorry Hun! Well you are not the only one, many families are like this. My dad's side is definitely like this, only none of them are rich. Your worthiness is measured by your financial success. It can be quite depressing and frustrating, maybe that is why we can choose our friends. So yes, it is normal.