Family member gets after my kids?

Question

My cousin and I are both married she has a kid who is about 2 yrs old and I have two 4 and 2, well we've been doing play-dates, but it bothers me and my husband because she gets after my kids, how should I handle that, my kids are being boys, and no they are not doing bad things, but I feel I'm the one to get after them not her. I don't say nothing to her kid, it's her responsibility, unless shes not around and I see her kid is doing something that can injure him. My husband says that I should just stop going out with her. I don't know either, it bothers me too sometimes, My cousin and I are not really close for me to tell her something, we just started to hangout about 3 months now, they way she gets after them is kind of rude in my eyes, they are ways of telling something to kids for it not to sound rude, like my son asked her where did you go, and she said to the bathroom, and my son said for what, and she said well what do you go to the bathroom for, but her tone of voice is just rude, come on he is 4, was it so hard to say, well because so and so had to go potty. It seems that my boys bother her, she cuts them off really fast, I don't, I make conversation with her kid and stuff. and she's going to be a teacher, I don't get that part, a teacher should be nice with every kid she sees, how is a parent going to respond to her rudeness once she teaches. So what do you think, what should I do, should I just avoid going out on play dates or tell her something..thanks

Answer 1

One of two options here - #1 tell her to keep her mouth shut to your kids, you're their mother, not her.. (this is my choice, but I am a bit mouthy, especially when it comes to my kids being insulted)

#2 Just slowly cancel your play dates.. withdraw yourself and your children from the situation and the rudeness. If she's planning on being a teacher, and if your kids will attend that school, just request a different teacher. Even though your kids are young, they can tell when someone is being rude to them.. don't let them go through that.

Answer 2

Say something.

Answer 3

have a talk with her. Maybe she does not even know what she is doing. or how it sounds when she does it. Then if you cant agree stop going over there with your kids.  

Answer 4

Sounds like you NEED to have a chat with her.  No one should make you or your children feel bad.  It's not healthy for them.