I give my 7 year old £1 every Saturday, provided she has been reasonably good. If she misbehaves enough, she doesn't get the money. She loves her pocket money, and it works an excellent incentive to behave (she is very sad when she doesn't get it). She also enjoys saving it so she can buy something she's spotted, it helps her learn to add the money, too.
But, her father then turns up and gives her a handful of £2 or £1 coins. Suddenly, no more saving, she can go straight out and buy it! If I've withheld her £1 for bad behaviour, now it doesn't matter, she's got loads from him.
He also keeps giving her money from his parents. The other day he came here and gave her £23 from his mother! She hadn't had her pocket money from me that week, for misbehaving in the shops.
I'm getting really annoyed about this.
How do you handle things like this?
My own parents give her money sometimes, too, but it's not silly amounts, it'll be a pound or two, and they always check with me before they give it.
Should I take the money off her and put it in a piggy bank, just letting her have what I think is necessary?
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