Family problems at home. What should she do?

Question

My girlfriend is having issues with her dad. He used to abuse her physically when she was little. He gives her food and shelter, makes sure she has what she needs and everything, but doesn't really acknowledge her as a daughter. She is fed up with his harsh words and treatment that she doesn't deserve. She can't mentally stand to live in the same house as her dad any longer. I have already started to see her develop some potentially severe psychological disorders, and my best guess is that her dad is a direct cause of it.

What should she do? She's not old enough to move out without her dad's permission and he won't give her permission out of spite for her. Her dad's parent live across the street, and they have a spare bedroom. I want to take her into my house but I cannot legally do so because it would be kidnapping or something.

Please, I need to help her because she cannot help herself she just cries all the time and she can't even think straight half the time because her dad is constantly calling her a worthless idiot and all kinds of stuff that I don't feel comfortable saying over the internet.

Answer 1

she really needs to talk to a counsellor / social worker.  perhaps there is a teacher or someone at school that can help put you in touch with the right people.

you should talk to your parents and ask for their advice, it isnt a good idea to have her move in with you but maybe her fathers parents across the street can help, but you find that abuse is cyclic and her father may have learned his behaviours from his childhood.

Answer 2

I assume she is a minor. Have her call the Boystown Teen Hotline, they can help her with this.

1-800-448-3000

There is also a web site if you want to search for it.

Answer 3

She should tell her grandparents! Because no one deserves that i don't care who ya are! They should listen and they should understand why she would want to stay with them. And he shouldn't have a problem with it because he doesn't even claim her. If that doesn't work u should tell ur parents see if they will understand and see if something can be arranged. Then if nothing else works if her is real mentally abusing her. Only one thing she can turn to. THE LAW!  

Answer 4

ur right about pyschological effects of her father abusing her...in this case since its a female child...it brings in more adversity!!!

firstly, i think you should talk to your own parents or guardians or elders who are there with you about this situation, as adult participation is necessary since its about a child(as far as age is concerned)....!

also...if the situation is getting physical...then you also have an option to talk to ur gf and then report to the police, it may seem stern by ur part etc...but its only for the benefit of the girl....cuz in such cases, she can even be lead to sexual abuse, molestation etc which u may not be aware of....!!

also try talking to her dad's parents about this case and see what they have to say.....maybe they would officialy bring her to their home where she can be safe...!!

but most importantly, unless any legal action can be taken, you should constantly be there with her, suppoting her mentally, as this is a very difficult phase she is dealing with...!! she needs your support the most...and i am really happy to see you concerned for her...just be besides her till any solution arises...till then...take my suggestions...!!

Answer 5

tell ur parents and be there for her