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Family problems..how do I deal? Please help..?

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I've always had a lot of problems with my parents and lately it's become a lot worse. I don't know where to start..they get angry over the littlest things and ever since I can remember all they do is yell at me and hit me for "misbehaving". Not just spanking, they would hit my legs and arms with chopsticks and such (kind of old-fashioned chinese parents). I've been spending time with my friends' families and they are nothing like mine. They actually seem loving and caring, something I've never known in my family. My parents are controlling and threatening. When I walk into a room it goes silent and when I go back to my room I can hear them talking about me. My weight, hair, skin. It's been going on for years and I would stand at my doorway crying. When they see me crying they think I'm just a baby or being stupid. I remember when I was around 5 I told them I had a headache and instead of worrying or asking what happened, they started laughing at me, saying that someone my age couldn't get headaches. They say home is somewhere where you can feel comfort and be safe, but for me this is not the case. If I get a pimple my mother always has to comment about it, asking me why I have a pimple, when acne is normal at my age (I'm 15). You know those days where you feel fat and just not at your best? I feel bad enough already but somehow my mother always manages to make me feel worse. They are not nice people at all. When I want to do something special for my friends, my father says having friends is a waste of time and I should save my money. I have no privacy whatsoever, so I stay in my room and try to keep the door closed as much as possible. they take this as if there is something wrong with me, and it's MY fault that I feel they don't care about me. They are never willing to spend any money on me, but they buy my brother whatever he wants. My mother always says that if I go out with her she'll buy me whatever I want, but whenever I ask for something, she says no, and I don't ask for much.

The other day I got really mad at my mother because she did something that she KNOWS I get mad about all the time, and I've told her again and again, but she doesn't listen. She refused to apologize, so I have been giving her the silent treatment. Then, she gets mad at me for being mad at her -.- She starts yelling at me threatening to disown me. She thinks I am ungrateful and selfish, which is not the case. I even told my dad that all I wanted from her was an apology, but I don't know if he told her. Either way, she wouldn't apologize. I asked them for money for back to school shopping, but they wouldn't give me any. NONE at all, but they gave my brother money. I really feel like Why? Why did God put me with this family? They don't care enough about me to provide for me, and my mother threatened to stop giving me lunch money and she won't make me lunch either. So she wants me to starve? I think it's obvious she doesn't care about me.

Like I said, she threatened to disown me and that I should no longer count myself as a part of this family, when I already don't feel that I am. I honestly, truly don't love them at all. I don't consider them family, they are just people I live with. How can I love someone that has just yelled at me and hit me my whole life? How do they expect me to like them? Am I wrong? I don't know what to do. I try to get out and just take a walk or something to get away and clear my mind, but I get in trouble for "going out without telling them", which doesn't make sense at all! I am responsible, I don't do drugs or alcohol and I don't hang around with the wrong crowd. I get straight A's in school, and I've never done anything bad to make them not trust me. I cry about this every night and think about running away or killing myself. The only thing I need from them is money..but the only thing I ever wanted was love and acceptance.

What am I supposed to do? These are not people you can talk to. They'll just yell at me or laugh at me some more.

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  1. i can feel you, and yes, sadly ive noticed chinese parents are just S****y parents, they are vain, selfish and only care about physical things like money and looks. DONT BE THEM.. she threatens to disown you? it sounds like a favor!! next time she sais that say "mother, i love you, but you make me wish you would, i am NOT YOU, and will never be like you, you are vain and cold hearted and it makes me sad sometimes to be your child, but remember were in america now....so if you would like to disown me then do it, but stop being mean to me or i will call DCFS (department of children and family services) on your asses and see how me getting taken away to some nice rich white parents that punish me by giving me stuff feels"...lol that will kill her. people at your age think its better to be with family than not, and it isnt true. I was kicked onto the street when i turned 17, i lived in the woods for a few days till i found a place, i loved it..:) had one of the most fun years of my life that year, lol, and now im a parent and working man. Dont let them make you as crappy as them your not in china, your here, and here they cant do that. if you get your fill call dcfs and tell them if you stay any longer you will kill yourself, (dont of course) but you will be removed and if anything get a break


  2. If what you say is all true, you are being abused. Tell an adult you can trust. Someone at school would be best since teachers and school personnel have to report suspected abuse.

    Since you are 15 you must be within 2 or 3 years of graduating from high school. You will definitely be 18 in less than 3 years and you can move out then if you can't get out sooner.

    Don't run away. Its very likely that you would be hurt far worse by a stranger if you do than your parents hurt you now. Even if you weren't it would be almost impossible for you to support yourself and finish your education.

    With straight A's you have a chance of going to college and making a good life for yourself. Don't blow it. You have to realize that the first 18 years of your life are preparation for the next 60 or 70. If you mess up now then it can put you in a position to be struggling for many more years than you have left at home.

    Keep your eye on the future. The golden ball is only 3 years away. You have already survived 15 years so the next 3 are the end of the road. As hard as it might get, its worth it if it allows you to have 60 or 70 more wonderful years.

    (((HUGS)))

  3. I know where you're coming from, my parents are somewhat like that. I realized that my mother governed me with her emotions and pride rather than with logic and reason. Don't kill yourself, you're far more valuable than what your parents treat you to be. Things got out of hand when I was your age, my parents pretty much confined me to the house and kept me from seeing any of my school friends. What helped me was talking to my guidance counselor in school, who introduced me to a social worker. She was someone who I could always talk to.

    I recommend that you find a social worker ASAP because obviously your family is harming you, and you're a good kid.

  4. Wow man, we are like THE same. Except well...you might be in a worse situation i guess...I don't really have an answer to give except that there are people just like you in some cases. I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone...

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  5. hi, i was never in your situation..sorry but my friend was... she stories were exactly the same as yours. so now one day she went and  hug her parents look at them in the eye lovingly and said" mum dad i love you. thank you for taking care of me all this while". her parents were like wat's going on but then they realise the wat they been treating her. and they change . i'm not joking it's true. now their relationship is good.... u see the way like calling asap or watever will only make them more angry cause they'll think u  r going against them...but instead buy their heart with love.. smile wenever u look at them.. mayb u can melt their heart with love... i hope i helped if u try let me know wether it works..gud luck


  6. Your parents make me sick. No child should ever have to go through what you do. they are abusing you emotionally,mentally,and as you said physically. They need help i'm not sure what you could do but talk to your school counsilor or someone you can trust to help you. And see how you can fix how they are.

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