Family problems...my sister is following my bad ways

Question

My family has been going through some problems the past 2 years...let me start from the beginning...i was a heavy coke user 2 years ago, and no one in my family knew my problem...to make a long story short, i overdosed one day and the first person i called was my little sister (she's 3 years younger than i am...i am 23). she came to my rescue, but at the hospital is when it all hit the fan for me and my family....so after my parents found out, it was h**l everyday. anyways, i got clean (been clean for a year), but now i find out that my sister is doing coke also. i went crazy. she didn't listen to me and just last night, her boyfriend's mom called my mom to tell her what she saw (she found a baggy in her house). now i'm trying not to get involved because then my parents will think this is my fault and that i knew all along and didn't tell them....

i don't know if i should get involved in the drama or to stay away and let her fix her own mistakes...what should i do about this? my dad told me to stay away because he already suspects that i had something to do with it...i'm so worried and confused.

Answer 1

Well, you should really try harder to stop your sister using drugs,

and try 2 find out how she got on the drugs or something...

Answer 2

Wait until her and her b/f are snortin and call the cops.They will take it from there.Would you rather have your sister in jail and going to drug rehab or toa mortuary?

Tell your parents what you have found out and tell them they need to intervene.

Answer 3

Just because you were doing coke doesn't mean your sister had to. She should have known better when she saw what havic it caused in the family and seeing you overdosed. don't feel guilty, and help your sister. she helped you!

Answer 4

Problems are always going to be a part of life, no matter who, what, when or where.  I suggest you read the book To h**l With h**l, which can be found on Barnes and Noble as well as Amazon.com.  In this book it deals with many problems in life and how to be at peace with yourself and others.  Don't beat yourself up, read the book and then you will no doubt understand more about your feelings and thoughts.  The future is bright for you as well as everybody else, which is discussed at length in this book.  The book is 220 pages of facts and feelings like yours that was dealt with by the author.  I read it and loved it.  

Answer 5

You probably won't be able to get her out of trouble, but you can be there to give her the support she needs afterward. I don't think it's your fault, she's 20, she can make these choices and realize the consequences and not just be doing it to be like her older sister.

You'll be the only person she can really, honestly, talk to about it, because you've been there. Your parents will most likely be amazingly upset about it, to have found out both their baby daughters have done coke, so she will need to talk to someone who can understand. Hopefully you'll be able to help her see that what she did is wrong and life threatening.  

Once everyone is calm about it, your family might be able to talk it out, and make the effort to patch up all of your relationships, so none of you have to resort to anything like that to finally be heard.

I really hope everything works out for you guys. I know how these things can tear a family apart. Good luck.

Answer 6

its clearly your fault !!

Answer 7

how did you get clean? did you go to a treatment centre? maybe you can give them help by saying what you did to get clean. it may help your sister. and is your sisters boyfriend on drugs, too? it sounds like it- that's probably why she started. anyway, you need to be supportive of your sister and your parents-you have the experience-you can probably be a great help to her, i hope she gets healthy soon- God bless you and your family.

Answer 8

i think the best you can do now is tell your parents just to keep her save:]

but you should deffinatly stand by her though it to get pasted this hard time in her life its hardd to get over if its an addiction eitherr talk face to face with her or tell your parents:}

and no that your deffinatily doing the rightt thingg!even if she takes it wrong.