Family question about home <span title="ownership..................?">ownership...................</span>

Question

I live about 20 minutes from my parents, and my wife lives about 40 minutes from her parents.

We are thinking about buying a house over an hour away from both of them just because we like the house. Not because of a job change, not because we have to. Do you think this is unfair to the grandparents?

Do you think we owe it to our children to live closer to their grandparents?

Answer 1

An hour away is not a big deal at all.

Answer 2

Nice house, in-laws hour away....i&#039;m sorry. What was the question again?

Answer 3

As parent of two young adults who live 6 and 8 hours away, I&#039;d give anything to have them within an hour&#039;s drive.  It&#039;s close enough for a visit most any day.

Answer 4

An hour isn&#039;t too bad.  However, think about things like &quot;How often will the grandparents be babystting?  Will it be too far to go so often?&quot;  Is the house perfect?  You should both hash it out and be totally honest to prevent regrets.  If you both decide on the house even though it&#039;s an hour away go for it!

Answer 5

On my husbands side, my daughter was 5 before she even MET her grandmother, and on my side, we lived half the country away from my mom until earlier this year. We are now half a country away from paternal grandma, and 3 hours away from maternal grandma. My daughter LOVES her grandparents, and when she gets to visit with them it is extra special. My mom took her for a week all by herself a few weeks ago, and my daughter had the best time in the world. It is not quantity of time together, it is QUALITY!!!!! It doesn&#039;t matter how far away, as long as the children know that their grandparents are always a part of their lives.

Answer 6

You dont OWE anyone anything. I lived over one hour away from Both  sets of grandparents.

Answer 7

I live just over 2 1/2 hours away from our families, it&#039;s FANTASTIC. I love the Grandparents, but I love them more when I don&#039;t see them all the time.

We are happy in our home, and our kids love it here. We see the Grandparents all the time, they come and stay over a weekend once a month or two.

Do what makes you both happy, not them.

Answer 8

I think you need to get the house you like. It is not about the grandparents.......and not really that far anyway. You need to have a good distance to maintain your little family unit. Not a big deal to move over an hour away

Answer 9

No matter what you do someone will find fault with it. Take care of you and your immediate family&#039;s needs.

Answer 10

You should do what makes you happy in life. You can&#039;t please everyone. You are still close enough to the grandparents that you could see them every week, but far enough away to have your own life. I don&#039;t see it as an issue. Plus, it is more special to see grandma when she doesn&#039;t live right next door.

Answer 11

That&#039;s no biggie.  What&#039;s an hour these days?  Isn&#039;t 60 minutes the new 40 minutes?

Answer 12

NO! I think you owe it to your children to be happy, responsible, loving parents. One hour is not too far to see the grandparents often. And if you live that far away the grandparents will give you your space.

Don&#039;t base your decisions on your parents, base it on what you and your kids need. (And if you love the house, buy it! There aren&#039;t that many that you will love this much)