Father and child relation ship?

Question

If you are a single mother, and you are not living together with the father of your child. You have never married the father or you are divorced, would you let your child see her father every/day or whenever he wants to, with out going to court. Or would you only let your daughter to see her father one out of every seven days with his own children. If that is the minimum the court says.

If you are a mother and do not live with your child’s father, would you voluntary allow your child to live with the father permanently, if he lets your child see/visit/talk and talk on the phone you every day or much as you want to.

Or would you like 40% percent of American woman that are not married to the father that don’t want your child to ever see the father, and only try the get every dime out of him.

Answer 1

Honestly, it depends on the father's situation.  If our marriage just didn't work out, but he was a good and stable person, I wouldn't have a custody battle; the kids could see him whenever.  If he lives in a tiny box of an apartment, doesn't have a steady job or anything, then the kids can see him, but they're living with me.  If he's not a fit parent, then yes, there will be a custody battle.  And, assuming that I will have a fabulous job when I'm married, I don't see why I would need any of his dimes.

I'm definitely of the belief that the children will benefit more from being around the more stable parent, rather than making it a mother vs father issue.

Answer 2

i was a single mother, never married to the father. when we seperated, i let him have my son whenever he wanted. but it had to be done equally, also. i had a new work schedule, and we both had to work together. then, he got mad at me and took him and wouldn't give him back. (he wanted me to come back) THEN i took him to court and got a permanant time schedule. i still let him have him during the week with no problem, though because i know if he causes a problem, i have written papers that state he is to be back home by sunday @6pm. i will never do that again though,(not go to court) he kept him for 4 weeks before i could get a court date, it almost killed me. i learned alot. and about letting the child live with my ex- if my sitiation was bad (area, school, job, no money etc) yes , for my sons sake. i want him to have the best WE can give him period. if that means my heart to be ripped out, then so be it. as far as voluntary, if i had no problems, probably not. i want my kids to live with me plain and simple. HOWEVER there are some mothers out there who need to just realize that they are not perfect, and if your child can be in a better enviroment, think of them and not yourself.

Answer 3

That would depend on the situation. If he was a good, responsible person who had the resources (safe home, enough money to meet basic needs, and stable emotionally) then I would have no problems letting the father have 50/50 custody.  If it was 50/50 I wouldn't expect to pay anything and I wouldn't expect him to pay anything.  However, rarely do people think with a level head when it comes to their children or ex's.  Good luck to you or whoever is in this situation.

Answer 4

When my husband and I were separated I moved out to a place about 2 blocks from where my husband was living. Technically I moved out with the kids -- set up their bedrooms at my house -- but they could go to Dads or mine after school and the little boy who was 1-3 during our separation would go with his brother and sister to Dads house in the evenings also.

So...I made the effort to set it up to see Dad every day and would do so again.