Father daughter?

Question

If you are not married to your daughters father, either divorced/or never married and you don’t want to live with him. Would you voluntary allow your daughter to live with here father, if you believe that she rather lives with here father full time than with here mother, if you believe that that is what she really wanted, and here father allows here to see you and spent as much time with you as she wanted.

Answer 1

i think that would be ok. it happens alot of times. but do you feel comfortable with it? I don t think most of the world here on yahoo would really say other wise. but as long as your comfortable with it and they are too i see no problem

Answer 2

I think that as parents, you should take your daughters wishes into consideration but at the end of the day as the adults you should both make the choice on who she lives with.

If you both feel its in her in best interest to stay with her father then I dont see a problem with it. If you think he can provide for her physically, emotionally and finacially etc and you have no concerns about her living with her father then I would let her.

I would however get everything down in writing and have it lodged with the family court, for example, excately how much contact you are going to have etc..Just as abit of back up incase things turn pear shape!

Again though, I think as her parents you should both have the final say on what you think is the best living arrangements for her. Goodluck!

Answer 3

Why not?  If the gentleman in question is a great involved dad and the two have a great relationship and he is great about including the mom in her life events (school stuff, activities etc) then what is the problem?   If it is what is best for all three people then go for it!   There is no law that says that children have to live with their Mother....it has just always been the trend.   Which doesn't make it right at all.

Answer 4

Never. Kids don't always know what's best for them. It depends on the age though- a 15 year old probably has the right to choose.

Answer 5

Why don't you share custody?  That's what my parents did, but if she has made the decision that she wants to live full time at her fathers then you not letting her is only going to make her resent you.

Answer 6

Not mine because he drinks. If he didn't then it would be a different story.

Answer 7

Yes if he is a good man.Most the time it is the dad's who will make the kid's tow the line.

Answer 8

When I was 8, I told my mom I wanted to live with my dad.  Of course I was crying and such and felt like a terrible child.  This upset my mom, but she allowed me to move in with my dad.  She has told me before that she thought I would be back living with her within 3 days, and it was the worst choice she ever made.  I'm now 16 and am very happy living with my dad.  I visit my mom on major holidays, such as all summer. I consider my mom, my mom--- to an extent.  She has always been there for me, but I don't feel that she has always made the best choices when it came to us.  (Don't get me wrong, I love her to death!)  But I find that I'm more stable in my dad's house.  He has never remarried, nor will he as long as I live there, and I have never had to worry about anything such as fiances.  

I seriously think that if you cannot raise a child in the way you would like to be able to, then you should lay that option on the table for the child.  (That sounds horribly rude, I'm sorry.)  Of course, the child may not want to live with their father.  To this day, I still feel terrible for doing what I did, but it was probably the best thing for me to do.  My father just happens to be the more stable of the two, and that is what I needed.