In my mom’s home we have Joint Family. And ours is arranged marriage. After marriage when I came to my Husbands home my husband was very happy and good with me. I don’t have mother in law. But my father in law & bro in law were not so good with me. My father in law always used to be jealous whenever I used to go out with my husband. He used to restrict us when we want to go out. When my husband is not at home he used to tell me all bad things about my husband. As I noticed my husband he is a gentleman, calm, caring and loving person. Even some of my relatives know him from a long time and they said my husband is very nice man. I never used to tell my husband about this attitude of my father in law. I used to be caring & loving with everyone and doing my duties towards home.
Within 2-3 months father in law started irritating me, he started coming with me and my husband whenever we go out. He used to fight and make issues on small things and my bro in law also used to support him and fight with his elder brother (i.e., my husband) insult my husband in front of me. Never invited any of my family members to home, insulted my family members, when my granny came to my home for 2 days my father in law and brother in law did not even speak with her properly. He wanted my husband to give all his salary in his hand, if we get anything new for home they used to make issue by saying that why it is required now and all. My father in laws business was running very well after our marriage. My husband & bother in law got promotions too.
But all these rules he wanted to apply on us only. He never asked my brother in law anything like this though my brother in law was earning more than my husband. And he got new bike and my father in law gave him money. I felt bad on this partiality. Within 11 months of our marriage he sent me and my husband out from home. He did not even give us enough money to get settled. However we managed, I also started working and after 2 years we bought our own home on loan borrowed some money from my parents.
Now my brother in law got married. They have not called us on marriage but still we went. My father in law is very caring with him and his wife. My co-sisters full family comes to my father in laws home often. My brother in law takes my co-sister everywhere in his daddy’s car (he never allowed us to take his car. In fact when I learnt driving he said “it’s my car we should not touch itâ€Â!!!!!!!) Now my bro-in law is out of country on job and co-sister is here only he allows her to go for picnics, learn driving and he takes her to various places where he kept me only in home. (It’s not the question of money; I got same amount of jewels at the time of our marriage as my co-sis have)
This daddy has also said bad things about me to my co-sister. He always created distance between my husband and my bro-in law. My bro in law hit my husband once!!
When we bought home we called all of them to for party. But only my father in law came, that too he came for making an issue. But by seeing my parents and all he finished it in small fight only and went.
Now he is calling my husband often, wants to be in touch with us.coz my bro-in law will be out for 5 years and co-sis also goes to join him next year .He is playing reverse game now, he says I am not suitable to my husband and all that stuff. My bro in law does not want to talk to my husband or me. Co-sis is also very smart in using all people for her needs.
My husband is very sure now that he will never go back to those people. But now its just 3 years of our marriage, as the time passes if my husband feels to go to his father or call his father to us then what do I do?? I know that he is his father after all, even I dint want them to be separate. But Can I accept these people again in my Life?
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