Father talking to unborn baby?

Question

my fionce is 17weeks pregnant with our first child so naturally i have been intrigued and interested in all the goings on going to scans and doctors appointments with her. recently i have being putting my head on her belly and i can hear the baby swishing around inside (confirmed by midwife coz i thought it was just her guts lol) and my fionce told me that i shud speak to the baby because it can here,

i am naturally very shy i wish i wasn't but ts a curse iv had all my life, how do i talk to her belly and nt feel so stupid i just cant do it and what would i say to it i no it seems such an easy thing to do but i just cant do it any help at all please but no sarcastic comments please.

i am genuanly thrilled about the whole concept of becoming a dad i just cant get my head round talking to a belly lol

Answer 1

You sound like you are going to make a great father. And lots of other dad's talk to their unborn babies. And you shouldn't feel like an idiot talking to your baby. Try saying simple things like

"Hey little guy. This is daddy."

OR

"Hey it's daddy. I can't wait for you to be born."

You could say jibberish but the baby's will still know that it is you. Good Luck and congrats! I'm sure you will think of some thing to say.  

Answer 2

Just say hello, how are you. You don't need to get into an in-depth conversation. I'm not sure at which point the fetus can hear sounds from the outside world, it might be a couple of weeks away still, but even then, just you talking to your fiance is going to get baby used to your voice, you dont HAVE to talk directly to the baby. My fiance hasnt talked to either of our babies in utero, he prefers to blow raspberries on them.

Answer 3

my partner never really talked to my belly i thought when i first found out i was pregnant that he would always be talking to my bump but the only thing he talked about to my belly was football an how she was his good luck mascot and his team better win lol!but now thats shes born he is a brilliant dad, i wouldnt worry about talking to the belly too much, your baby can hear your voice when you talk to your fiance!

Answer 4

My husband felt the same at first but he started telling the baby all about his day at work or even reading the paper to my belly. It doesn't matter what you say - it's your voice the baby wants to hear!

Congratulations and good luck x

Answer 5

its good that you are interested on whats going on in the pregnancy, i l know it might sound sad but singing to the baby may make the baby move and kick and will reconize your voice when the baby is born...

Answer 6

If you don't know what to say, then maybe ready something to the baby - it doesn't matter what it is, just as long as the baby can hear your voice

Answer 7

My husband had a hard time at first too. They really do like it. He use to say "hi baby it's daddy. how are you?

In our situation baby stopped moving as soon as Dad talked and then when he stopped baby would start moving/kicking/punching and Dad would laugh. This helped him talk more and not feel "silly"

It is not silly let your child hear your voice-the child loves it.

Congrats

Answer 8

This article may help you.

http://www.ehow.com/how_8431_talk-baby-u...

Answer 9

studies have shown that babies, still in the womb, will respond to exterior sounds, they respond (in their own way) positively to the same things that we find interesting, the voice of a human (like yours) or the gentle sound waves from soothing music. music after all is based on what we first learn to listen to...the beat of a heart. i would not be shy, you are helping "imprint"your future baby, if the baby speaks back then you are doing a REALLY good job. : )  -blurey

Answer 10

You you need to think of her belly as more of your baby instead of a belly. Just talk, you can say stuff like i love you baby and i cant wait to see you. mommy and daddy love you so much. or when you get home from work kiss her belly and say hey baby how was your day? daddy thought about you so much today i love you. babies who's parents talk to them are known to be more developed and smarter. its a known fact. also that way the baby will recognize your voice even better when your baby is born. you can read to the baby a book or you sing to the baby and everything  helps. just use your imagination. pretend that the baby is actually here.  just sit in bed and hold your fiance and read a baby book to the baby. it is very important to talk to the baby. tell it what you did at work what you guys are eating for dinner. it will feel weird and thats understandable. i mean its not normal to talk to a belly but a pregnant belly is completely different. you will get used to it.

Congrats by the way.

Answer 11

If your embarrassed then just say something you can laugh at yourself, it doesn't have to be anything serious, they baby can hear you but it doesn't know what your saying.

Answer 12

my husband will rub my belly and say whats up baby? how ya doin in there? just silly stuff like that. lately she ahs been kicking me in my ribs a lot, he will say stop kicking your momma. you prolly dont know what your having yet, but when you find out it will be easier.  

Answer 13

My fiancee was the same! He felt silly at first. I got him to put his head on my bump while talking to me. One night the baby kicked him in the head while he was doing it and he's been talking to the baby ever since. I think it made him feel more like he was talking to a person once he got the kick to the head!

I'm at 28 weeks now and he talks to the baby all the time

Best of luck and congrats!

Answer 14

Why don't you put your head on her belly when y'all are talking?  That way you can get used to kind of talking to the baby belly.  It might make it some what easier for you!  Just remember you are talking to your baby not the belly.

Answer 15

You can't do it without feeling goofy .. or embarrassed .. or silly ... or any other similar adjective you wanna put in there. When you become a parent, you find yourself thinking and saying the most ridiculous things!  Like ..ok who put Vick's on the cheese-its. And  you get excited about strange things too .. Like your child's first dirty diaper. That's the beauty of parenthood. While they are growing up you get so comfortable enough in doing and saying strange and silly things, that when they are in their preteens and teens you can keep doing those things and embarrass THEM ...!  That right there makes it all worth it!

So read, sing silly songs, tell him/her about the latest development in the outside world. Its the sound of your voice that means the most ... not what you say to them.