Fear of losing my grandparents.?

Question

I ADORE them! They're the cutest, huggable, most loveable people on the planet. And whenever I see them, I can't help but acknowledge how much they've aged since I last saw them. My grandmother has a hard time walking and my grandfather has so much age in his eyes that it only recently clued in that he's not perpetually exhausted, but that's he's 77 years old! I know that death is inevitable, but does anyone else feel this extreme fear of losing loved ones on an almost constant basis? And I'm almost terrified of how I will react, how my life will result when I lose my grandparents, much less my own parents! Just for conversation's sake, can anyone tell me how life seems to work after the loss of a parent or very close grandparent?

Answer 1

I feel the same way about my grandparents. But actually, I'm afraid of losing all of my family. I'm so paranoid, that I cry myself to sleep every night. I'll tell you what, just accept the fact that they love you, and you love them. I know that we have no control over death, but I wish there was a way to stop it.  

Answer 2

My grandma was this wonderful, white haired lady who always stood up for me. She died at 83. My mom raised 9 of us, loved us thru thick and thin,  and died of cancer at 66. My dad was healthy as a horse, hated doctors, and died at 98. I miss them all but I don't grieve. They all taught me that life on earth is brief but should be lived with gusto, love and laughter; and that with God's help they are always protecting me wherever I go. Nurture a strong spirit and you won't fret for your grandparents. They are in God's hands.

Answer 3

I really, pretty much understand what your feeling,and, much to my embarrassment, I cry when I think about it. My grandma can't walk very well, and my grandfather has been getting sick on and off lately. I think, what happens when you lose someone you love, you cry over it for a while, then you slowly get back on track. I won't say sooner or later, because it's always going to be later, but you'll start feeling better, and living life the way your grandparents want to, and sometimes, on some nights, you'll just have to cry into your pillow silently when they cross your mind, and wake up with dry eyes, and get on with the day.

Answer 4

I am not very close with any of my grandparents. But I do think about what it would be like to lose someone close to me. I think about it WAY too much. I guess when people are always in your life it is devastating to imagine them dying. I lost a very good friend about 5 years ago and it still to this day hurts when I think about it. It gets better but when that person comes into your mind its very sad. I still cannot go to the cemetery because I know that it will bring it all back. So I cant say what it would be like to lose a parent or grandparent yet. But the best thing to do is try and enjoy the time that you have because you really never know when you tell someone goodbye if it is the last time. Mourn their death when they are gone and don't waste time mourning it before it happens. I will try and take my own advice!! I think what you are feeling is completely normal.