Feedback on minor situation?

Question

Every morning, I always kiss my husband and say "I love you" before I leave for work.

This morning he left before I did. He did not say "Good Bye", "love ya" or anything of that nature.

This bothers me. I know it's a minor issue, but I feel that "I love you" should always be the last thing you say because you never know what's going to happen before you see the person again.

Should I bring it up to him or just drop it?

Addition:

He also says "I don't feel the need to say 'I Love You' all the time because you should know it by now. I only say it because you want me to and I could go a week without saying it".

But most of the time, he says "I love you" first, to me on the phone before hanging up.

Answer 1

I know what you mean, we are the same way.. youre right about never knowing what might happen. my hubby doesn't think that way, but for the most part he usually says I love you before me.   maybe today your hubby got side tracked or has something on his mind and just forgot... i would just ask him if he needs to talk or if something is on his mind...

Answer 2

they are just words- actions are far stronger.  If it is important to you to hear those words, then yes- you should talk to him about it.  Personally, I'd rather feel loved than have to be told.

Answer 3

You sort of answered your own question.  He normally doesn't like to say it all the time, so I don't think that there's anything wrong.  I don't think he's mad at you or anything.  And if he normally doesn't say it, then why would you feel that you need to bring it up?  If it means that much to you, it would be nice if he would change that action for you, but if he doesn't, can you still live with it?

Answer 4

They are words. Does he show you that he loves you?  I don't think it needs to be said 100 times a day, he is your husband.

Answer 5

My wife and I do the same thing. We never leave each other nor go to sleep until it is said. Now I feel I'm a rarity among men. I'm the one that cries at Holiday commercials and am the one who wants to talk about my feelings. Your husband seems caing enough if he is saying it consistantly even if it is to make you happy. It could b looked at he is putting you first. That is a good sign.

Now telling you he does it only for you wasn't a good thing. You did not mention if he has been stressed lately or work getting to him or personal things. He may just have a lot on his mind and sort of forgot. I've done that--been so focused on something else I just plainly forgot.

You did not say how long you have been married. I have been with my wife for over ten years, married for just shy of eight. You need to understand the puppy love, infatuation era will and does dissapear. The real world does invade your romantic world. But this is where the two of you need to grow and and adapt (not necassarily change). Over time the real world will take over. You did not say if you have kids. They will take over BIG TIME.

Maybe if you found other ways to say "I love you."

My wife comes home with a bag of Peanut M&M's(my favorite) and says she was thinking of me at the store.

I, for no appearant reason, will send my wife a bouquet of inexpensive  flowers with a note that says "Jus' B-cuz."

We have a silly code for I Love You--it's 1-4-3. Get it? Numbers represent amount of letters in each word.

I would not put too much worry into the incedent. Yuor relationship is just maturing. Keep an eye on his actions and don't be afraid to talk.

Use "I" staments insead of "you."

Don't say "you seem distant and distracted."

SAY: I feel like you seem distracted.

Answer 6

I have been married 18 yrs and am somewhat emotionally independent. Occasionally my husband will leave with out saying "goodbye" or "I love you".  It's surprising to me how bad of a day I'll have without hearing something from him.  I will eventually call him and say something nice to him and will most always get a reassuring response back.  It's just enough to make my day better. I don't ask him why he didn't say it in the first place though.  Your husband is right when he says he doesn't feel the need to say it all the time.  They truly are geared differently.  It's ok for them to leave us guessing at times, it makes us try harder. I'm sure everything is fine.  Make a nice dinner tonight or wear something he really likes on you.    

Answer 7

Hi i know exactly how you feel,my partner is doing the same to me at the moment,he has always been attentative ,and he isnt saying i love you either,i always feel like this when i am in secure,try not to worry you may be feeling the same way as me!

Answer 8

Aw.  I just wanna give you a big ol hug now. If it bugs you, bring it up. Communication is one of the keys to a good marriage. He told you he could go a week without saying it. Why not try that and see if he really misses it as much as you missed it this morning. In any event, if that's your biggest problem in your marriage, I'd say you're in good shape.  

Answer 9

Do you really want to trade arguments where you say 'I feel that "I love you" should always be the last thing you say because you never know what's going to happen before you see the person again." and he says: "I don't feel the need to say 'I Love You' all the time because you should know it by now."

You are both needing to be right! Wouldn't you rather be happy?

Why not bring it up as a request? Simply let him know that it makes you happy and content when he says "I love you" 3 times a day. Could you do that for me, Honey?

Bet he says yes...

Answer 10

I would be more concerned that he didn't say anything.  Something may be bothering him, or he felt slighted or angered in some way.  

I don't think it's necessary to overly say "I love you" just to say it.  But it is necessary to say good bye, I love you, or some other term of endearment when leaving for whatever time period.  If something happens that last minute together will be replayed for a long time.