Feeling Depressed!!!?

Question

I've been feeling so depressed lately. I've had so much going on in my life, with my mom mistreating me and then deciding to do something about it and her vicious "revenge" by telling other people terrible and untrue things about me and now I'm safe and staying with my dad, so I don't see what the problem is. But I've been feeling really sad and lonely and I've been getting scared of the smallest things that make me think of my mom - even the doorbell ringing scares me! And going to Wal-Mart and Red Lobster and a lot of places she sometimes goes to - I'm so scared for some irrartional reason!!!! Even when I'm doing "fun" things with my friends, I can't seem to stop thinking about it! What can I do about this feeling?

Answer 1

i no what you mean. my mom once had a BF who was horribly abusive of me and my sibs, and even after my mom broke up with him, and got a restraining order, I am always afraid he will find us, no matter where we are. try going to a councilor or something, it really helped for me. It doesn't make the fear go away, but he/she will help you so that the fear does not control you life.  

Answer 2

Please go talk to the school counselor. Most schools have one, and they are 100% confidential. Just remember that whatever happened, it's not your fault.

Also, getting involved in after school activities or sports is a good way to get your mind off things a little more. Surround yourself with happy, supportive people and be open and honest with your dad.

I hope things change for you soon.  

Answer 3

Sounds like your mother really abused you. Maybe your dad needs to take to you see someone to talk to about it. Maybe a therapist. That way you can talk through your feelings to someone who isn't so emotionally involved. But I would say just let go and move on, the sooner you can the better. Your safe with your father now.

Answer 4

Your mother is the one who is depressed and by striking out at you is trying to get you to carry her pain.  she needs help.    Just know that you are not alone...that other people have had really, really abusive childhoods and have made it through OK.   If your mother hits you or screams abusively, you need to tell your father and try to stay with him.  When you get to be a certain age you can petition the court to make a choice between staying with your mother or father so you will be safe.

What you have is what soldiers who have really life threatening experience in war have--it is called post traumatic stress syndrome.

Your mother who has been tasked to take care of you was the one who

instead of protecting you, threatened you by her unbridled emotional outbursts.  You have been shell shocked.  There is no shame in this..So try to see if your dad has some insurance so you can get some treatment.