Feeling a little hurt...

Question

Has anyone put a lot of time in trying to plan something for a family member, only to be told the family member didn't want to go? My bff and I planned a little celebration for my parent's 25th wedding anniversary. She's into making cakes and is very good at it, so she made a nice beautiful cake for them. She also made potato salad and 20 ears of corn. I find out from my sister this morning that my dad doesn't want to drive in the heat to come see us. We live 30-45 minutes away depending on your speed, and I don't ask for much. I had to spill the beans to my mom and let her know her sister might be coming up for it, so they better be coming. It's so frustrating. I had a lot of stuff to get done tonight, and now I don't even feel like doing it. Has anyone else had their family make them feel like c**p like this?

Answer 1

My family make me feel like c**p all the time,

I once drove 3 1/2 hours and spent £200 on a sat nav just for that journey to pick my sister up because she was scared of where she was staying and just to note, she's 24 and i'm 17 at the time. Then the next week i needed a hand with a form (yes a piece of paper)... and she couldnt be bothered to help me. it's annoying. and i took my mum out for her birthday, organised it all nicely for her and my sister chose to get drunk...and was sick at the restaurant so we had to leave. Leaving behind a special cake i had made for her birthday.

But i think about everything my family has done for me and really i'm the one who isnt doing enough to repay the love they shower me with.

Answer 2

i have in-laws that when you plsn something they chang it to another day or other plans same difference.. I know how you feel.

I fhtey dont want to come have the party without them.

Answer 3

Cant say I have ever been in your situation.  It must be frustrating.  Maybe call your mom and tell her and your dad you will  just come to them since they dont want to  drive.  Get her reaction as well as your dads.

Answer 4

I understand how you are frustrated, condfused, insulted, even a bit angry.

But the older people get, it seems to me the less they like surprises.

i think the parents should have been in on the planning enough that they could get used to it, and let you know if they were up to driving or not.  Your dad might even be feeling ill.

i know it feels bad, but they really  may not have done this to be annoying or rude.

and yes, my family , particularly my mother, made me feel like that often.